“She has no idea how hard I work.” Robert, a seven-figure tech entrepreneur, shakes his head. “Does she think I slave away all day just for me?

“I want all the wonderful things that she wants. In fact, I love providing for her. But damn if…”

He pauses, thinks.

“Ok, fine, she’s made it clear, I need to show up better. I need to provide emotionally for her as well as physically.”

Robert looks away.

“But I don’t understand a few things.

“Recently, I tried to do what she asked of me, to help her out around the house, to be more present for her.

“I even fixed the back door that hasn’t been shutting correctly. Granted, it took me a month.

“Still, I’m putting a lot of skin in the game these days. But man, she’s still like an ice queen.”

Do you experience your wife as cold and distant?

Maybe you even feel like you’re trying to show up more, be more caring, communicate better.

And yet still she’s distant and disinterested in you. With increased efforts, it’s easy to get resentful – she doesn’t see I’m trying.

As a result, you might blow up every once in a while, like Robert, wanting to take a hatchet to the ice.

Do you get frustrated when your partner doesn’t see your efforts to show up better?

“Somewhere, somehow, I lost her, I know I was working too much, and yet even with all that I’m trying to do better, it’s like I can’t get her back.”

Unknowingly, Robert is stepping on a land mine. It’s the same one I see a lot of men step on.

He approaches his relationship like it’s a door repair job.

And I don’t blame him. It’s what he knows, what pays off at work and in other areas of his life – fix problems and get rewarded for solutions.

But it is one of three ways that guys like Robert lose their wives.

What Robert has missed is that marriages require something else. Something less goal-oriented, less contrived, and less manipulative.

In the video below I speak to the two other ways I commonly see guys lose their wives.

What will it take to win your wife back?

Check out the video to discover simple steps to get her back.

Is your marriage really worth saving? Or do you just fear being alone?

I ask because your wife will know the difference. You know how women are. They often see things that we can’t. It’s like this voodoo skill of theirs.

You can’t just fake it or go through a pre-written script. It’s got to be real, from the heart.

For Robert, that took a few months. Like a lot of guys, he was head. He didn’t even know what was in his heart.

Working together, we changed that. And that was a game-changer for his wife, who was hungry for her husband’s heart.

It was then that she could chill out and warm up, finally.

Are you seeking to win your wife back?

If so, take that first step and let’s have a quick chat.

A guaranteed, powerful conversation to give you meaningful insights on how to reconnect with your wife and build a better marriage.

And to be clear, talking with me is just an honest conversation between two guys keeping it real to explore how you can move ahead in your relationship.

I’d be honored to hear from you. Move into action and shoot me a quick email.