“I just want things to be fluid with her,” my client Will says. “I want her to be ok.”

Sounds reasonable enough, right?

How about you? Are things smooth sailing with your partner?

Maybe like Will, you’re willing to do anything to get your partner to chill…. Until you’re fed up…

Will says, “I took the kids to school every day this week. It’s totally out of my way compared to where her job is. And then… I left work early twice to take the kids to the doctor… And….”

And so Will goes on with his list of perfection. The perfect husband.

It’s a bummer. And he knows it.

I doubt his mission when he got married 12 years earlier was to twist himself into a pretzel to please his wife.

And soon enough, it’s apparent that, that is exactly what he’s doing.

Do you seek your partner’s approval?

Maybe like Will, you do it in the hopes that if you make her happy, then she’ll chill out, she’ll be more open and more loving, and maybe she’ll even be more open to sex.

Well, it’s a dead end, brother.

Because she sees right through that kind of transactional manipulative behavior.

“What do you mean? I’m just being a good guy,” Will says.

“Not as long as you use it against her later when you’re busting out of the box you put yourself in to get her approval.”

Do you put yourself in a box of perfection with your wife or partner?

If so, no bueno, amigo.

Time to change those unhealthy destructive patterns and get free to get what you really want.

Discover how to get out of the box of perfection, or approval or whatever box you put yourself in with your partner.

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