Your wife hates her boss. Or maybe she’s struggling to lose weight. Or she’s upset at your kid’s teacher for how they were treated. She wants you to listen about what’s upsetting her. So you do it. You listen. Maybe you’ve heard that you’re supposed to just listen and not fix her problem. Maybe you’ve even watched the “Nail in […]
Tony, a high-level executive, comes to me trying to get a handle on his marriage. “Nothing I do ever seems like it’s enough for my wife. I’m not home enough, she says. I don’t spend enough time with the kids. I work my ass off and I show up as the best partner possible.” He pauses, sighs. “I’m at a loss. I […]
My client Robert tells me about how his wife dislikes him spending time with a close family member of his. This is someone super important to him, who he really wants to see more often. Does your partner ever object to who you spend time with? Robert goes on for a bit about the details of the situation. He’s a […]
Steve gets feedback from his wife – well, more like criticism. “‘You don’t contribute to the family. You’re not present for me. You’re on your phone too much,’ she says to me.” Steve sighs. Is your wife tough on you? A lot of guys hear these words, or similar, from their wife. Good guys, just like you and me. Men who […]
Tom looks across the dinner table at his wife of twenty years. He’s eating the same breaded chicken and mashed potatoes that he’s eaten once a week for the last god knows how many years. Some words are exchanged. His wife does most of the talking. Tom notices how much his wife likes to talk. And how little he cares about what she has to […]
An aerospace engineer rocks it all day at work. But when he comes home, his wife makes it clear that he is not rocking it with her Before he even lays down his shoulder bag, she says, “Did you take care of the credit card issue?” F*#k, I spaced. What do I tell her? She sees the look in his […]
There’s something in your relationship. Something you avoid talking about with your partner. Something under the surface. A stress. A fear. A sense of something not right. Something not out in the open. Do you feel that something with your partner? Maybe you bury it down. Or you kick it down the road. Maybe it’s a rock you fear looking under. Or […]
Life just happens. It often just passes us by. And in our busyness, be it work, marriage or raising kids, we often focus on what’s immediately in front of us, instead of what’s really important to us. As a result, we often lose our partner like a passing ship in the night. We don’t know when it happened but it […]
My wife is sexually shut down; I hear these words often from men. After many years in marriage, other priorities have taken over. Sex is last on her list. And that’s frustrating as hell. Are you asking yourself… Why won’t my wife have sex with me? You may know the reasons. She’s exhausted with work, the kids, and home. But […]
Tim was one of those ‘successful’ guys with the six figure income, the nice house, two sweet kids, the beautiful wife, and big yard. From the outside, you’d have no idea that inside that beautiful house, his beautiful wife was…well, not so beautiful. In truth, she was a bully. She consistently reprimanded and demeaned Tim. Are you in a relationship with an abusive woman? […]
