Rick was a successful entrepreneur. The kind of guy who kicked ass at work. Good looking, fit, smart. He didn’t seem like the kind of guy who played small in the world. But at home, that’s precisely what he did. He tried not to upset his wife. He walked on eggshells around her. And he swirled in one question. How can […]
Like many men I coach, Austin was struggling in his relationship. He’d lost his mojo, his way, his passion with his wife. After waking up next to her daily for 12 years, he said, “I feel like I’m in a cage. The thrill is gone. Is this really the rest of my life?” “What do you want? What do you […]
At its most challenging in his relationship, a guy finds himself in that “tension in the kitchen” moment with his partner. Have you ever been there? If so, you know how it goes. There’s been a fight the night before. Maybe you hardly remember what it was about. Or you’ve replayed it in your head multiple times, wondering what you […]
Roger feared rocking the boat with his wife. His behaviors showed that. Maybe one of them apply to you as well. It’s easier to just go along with whatever she wants than risk upsetting her. When I speak up for what I want, it just causes problems. And so, I just say nothing. I avoid what I fear with her instead […]
Guy was ambivalent about his commitment to his marriage. He experienced a few things. The unwillingness to act or make a clear choice. The sense of being frozen for years on end. The anxiety of staying with one foot out the door. These are the symptoms of a man who betrays himself. A man who is not in integrity with himself with his […]
Relationship is a confusing minefield for many men. That was once true for me during a 20 year marriage. She says one thing one day and then something else another day. From I don’t know what she really wants to she’s nuts or I just want peace, a lot of men resign themselves to confusion and the status quo. Yet, underneath is a feeling that […]
If 2021 were a guy in the bedroom, there’d be a lot of performance anxiety. His partner might say, “You better deliver ‘cause 2020’s been a shit show.” The pressure’s on for 2021 to deliver. Are you hoping for anything different in 2021 in your relationship? If so, what? “I just want some space!” many men are saying. After […]
“Are you crazy? Ask her for sex?” my client Tom asked me. “She’ll freak out on me.” I had just encouraged Tom to ask his wife for what he wanted from her. In his own words, that was sex. Simple enough. “How is avoiding it serving you?” I said to him. He thought about it. Like many men I coach, […]
I talk a lot about conflict in relationship. It’s where a man needs help most. It’s the biggest problem in his relationship that he wishes he could solve. Do you argue or fight with your partner? If so, you’re not alone. From years of coaching men, I’ve seen that most guys don’t do conflict well. For most men, it’s just […]
Roberto was 12 years married when we began working together. He had all the behaviors of many married men I coach. He was walking on eggshells around his wife. He lived in fear of stepping on a landmine with her. And he tried to avoid what he feared – arguments, upsets, and divorce. “It all started about seven years ago […]
