Rick hadn’t been intimate with his wife for almost a year. They’d been married for fifteen. “Once in a blue moon, she’ll let me touch her breasts,” Rick said, as if reluctantly accepting a consolation prize. His options, in his view, were to stay in a sexless marriage or leave and risk losing his family. The double bind of Damned if you do, […]
A man is struggling in his marriage. But he doesn’t know that there are options for him to improve things. Options beyond HIDING OUT on his phone, ESCAPING through work, getting his physical needs met through porn, or RUNNING from reality into booze or pot. In truth, he feels crappy about acting like this. He hides his behaviors from his kids and wife, and at times, has them out […]
At least several times per month I hear a version of this from guys who contact me. “She’s always bossing me around. It’s constant,” Bill, a father of two, says. “She tells me, ‘You never listen to me. You didn’t do this. You didn’t do that. And what about that other thing I asked you to do?’” Do YOU EVER feel like you’re […]
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THIS is the moment when it ALL changes. As in NOTHING will ever be the same again. EVER. The moment when he becomes the guy DONE thinking… I shoulda’ said that. If only I’d have done that. Next time I’m gonna tell her. Do you know that guy? Are You That Guy? Who isn’t? I was that guy. 7 years ago. And then it ALL changed. […]
Sol was an account executive with a broadband company. He worked his ass off at work. You know, the whole “climb the ladder” thing. But even better for him, he loved what he did. Much of his work served the developed world. A mission he believed in. At home, it was good and all but… there’s always a but. Anyway, he came to me […]
Social distancing? Or sexual distancing? For many couples, it’s been one in the same. You might be in the same physical space. But are you in the same relational or sexual space? Are you seeing one another? Working as a team? Helping one another get through this COVID madness all the better for it? If you are, you’re likely having more […]
In these coronavirus times, I’m seeing some remarkable things. Men are getting real, vulnerable, removing their masks and exposing their fears on a mass cultural level like never before. I don’t ever recall New York Times columnist David Brooks speak so intimately. Would you be willing to describe how the coronavirus is affecting your mental health? Is the combination of isolation […]
I keep hearing stories… … my kids are driving me nuts. … my wife is killing me. …. how am I gonna get through this Corona madness with my family? Social distancing has created relational claustrophobia. And with that, comes COVID-19 psychosis. Not actual psychosis, but feels like it. Clients are asking me how to deal. And more often than not, […]
Every day, we wake up and have the opportunity to tend to our kingdom. How are you tending to yours in these challenging times? Do you show up as the hero of your own story? Or the victim? When it’s the latter, do you even notice? Or do you unconsciously go down the rabbit hole of victim consciousness? Time out! No shame. Instead, […]
