The house of your marriage is on fire. You spin in the same conflict with your wife. You hear the same words from her. “I can’t trust you. You don’t do what you say. I don’t feel like you’re on my team.” It’s enough for a guy to lose hope in the future of his marriage. And even worse, lose […]
You commit to one woman. She’s the one you will be with. She’s the one woman with whom you will have sex. You’ve committed to her in marriage or monogamy. And then, the door closes. Over time during your relationship, she closes the door behind the sex life you once shared. Has your partner closed the door on your sex […]
ve been sharing a bed with her for 20 years now,” James, a senior tech analyst and client, says to me. “Typically at night, my wife will sit in bed, reading her book and I’m just thinking, how can I connect with her? “Then I go to touch her, caress her arm. And then she’ll give me that look, like, […]
“She shuts down on me,” my client Rick says to me. He’s not used to that. In his work as a tech CEO, he consistently has the attention and focus of others. He’s used to his words being heard and people being open to him. “Sometimes I can’t figure out what I did. Why’s she like that?” Does your wife […]
Marriage. Relationship. Coupledom. Commitment to one partner. That person you can rely on forever. Sounds beautiful upfront. And yet, if you’ve been in a long-term marriage or relationship, it’s not that simple. That one person is also the one who will trigger the sh*t out of you, causing you to feel trapped at times; in fact, that’s their job. The […]
Every month, a man struggling in his marriage emails me with a simple question. How can I save my marriage? Maybe you’re asking yourself this question. Or you’re avoiding it. Or you’re not even sure if your marriage is worth saving. You might be saying things like… “She’s just not open to me.” “She doesn’t trust me.” “I know I […]
It started for Alex with an acknowledgment—an awareness that his pain wasn’t the enemy, but an opportunity. A doorway to creating a more fulfilling marriage and greater life. As a clean energy executive transforming the nation’s grid, Alex sought challenges as opportunities in his work. But he didn’t do the same at home. He’d lost trust with his wife. She […]
My client Tim, a 46-year-old software CEO, is crushing it at work. But he feels trapped at home.“With all my success, I kind of feel entitled,” he says. “What do you mean?” I ask. “Well…” He looks down for a moment before looking up again. “I mean, you know why I’m here. My marriage is failing. And even though it’s […]
You want it. You haven’t had it for a while. In fact, you’re hungry for it. Sometimes, you even feel like you’re at the mercy of it. You want it now. But you know you can’t demand it. You know that demanding will just make it more likely that you won’t get it. Besides, she’s an autonomous independent being. What […]
Vulnerability. It’s a bit of a buzzword in the relationship world these days. Brené Brown speaks about it often. Specifically, how it’s important to “embrace your vulnerability.” Why bother? Why be vulnerable with your wife? Well, if your marriage is on the rocks, pay attention. 90% of divorces in college-educated couples are initiated by the wife. Yes, a staggering number. […]
