My world is quiet. It’s early morning. The homes opposite me are blanketed in snow. I am homebound here in Colorado. Homebound, probably just like you. Who’d have ever thought it would all come to this? Sure, maybe years ago you made it through Y2k unscathed like me, with a few extra propane tanks in your garage. But now. Now […]
He can never make her happy. Nothing is ever enough. What can he do? And then one day she says she wants a divorce. He is stunned. More and more men are having this experience today. Women are initiating 70% and even more of divorces these days. Keith saw the writing on the wall in his marriage. He had hit a threshold. His […]
We think we’re not enough. It’s why we don’t ask for what we want in marriage. And within the not enough script inside of us, subtle psychological mechanisms are at work– in how we repeat old relational patterns, how we sabotage ourselves, and how we neglect our most precious relationships. Freud called it the thanatos “death drive,” the opposing force […]
When men approach the threshold of marital change, be it considering separation, divorce, or reinvention, I immediately acknowledge the immensity of where they are. That place of big change, the cracking open of new life. They often do not see it. How could they? It is not in our cultural language. I emphasize the importance of taking it slowly, one step at […]
A man knows he has to get out of his marriage, change it, do something. And yet he does nothing; fear cripples him. Is this man you? This man is divided. He fears the fallout of change but knows he must make change. He works with me. We go deep into his fears. We create a path forward in which he can honor […]
“This is a man’s world,” James Brown sang 54 years ago in his iconic 1966 ballad, “It’s A Man’s Man’s Man’s World.” That’s right. The Godfather of Soul. This is a man’s world, this is a man’s world But it wouldn’t be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl. Brown goes on about the inventions man made, from cars […]
LISTEN TO THE PODCAST NOW Stuart had the privilege to speak with Lesli Doares on how trying to make your partner happy wastes love and energy. The myth that you can make your partner happy causes a lot of pain and suffering. Instead, you can focus on what you need to be happy and bring your happiness to your partner. […]
“The feminine in a man?” A big burly man says. His massive biceps dwarf his muscle shirt, as he lifts at the gym. “Ha, you got to be kidding me. Next thing you know, you’ll be asking me to be join the knitting club.” “That manly man ain’t so manly,” another man says, “if he’s afraid of his heart.” Ok, […]
There’s one question that disarms couples in a moment of conflict. Prefer to watch me present live? The Conflict John and Susan zoom in to me on video chat from South Carolina. John’s a high level executive with a steel company. And while he spends a lot of time at work, he’s aging and well aware that his home life […]
Today, a story about the greatest suffering – forgetting who we are. Prefer to watch me present live? Check out the YouTube video now. The Client Tim comes into my office. He is torn up inside. He has been married for many years. He’s not shy about sharing how much he loves his wife and children. But… something’s not right. […]
