Success. It’s one of the greatest values we hold as men. Crushing it at work. Making things happen. Seeing the money. It can be quite gratifying when we are successful at work. At the same time, it’s mystifying when we can’t replicate that success in our marriage or relationship. Are you that guy who crushes it at work but struggles […]
Sex. It should be simple. It should be clean. She should just want you. And yet when she doesn’t, you can feel a ton of rejection, a sense of desperation, and like you’re screwed – no pun intended. Do you experience sexual rejection from your wife or partner? Or maybe you just don’t get enough sex? A mentor of mine, […]
“I’m in love with you” versus “I love you.” What’s the difference? And why would you care? Chances are you don’t care unless you heard or fear this; your partner says, “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” What’s she really saying when she says that? Is she saying that she’s done with the relationship? She wants […]
Three scripts from three men about their sex challenges with their wives. “She hasn’t touched me in weeks. She never initiates sex.” “It’s like she doesn’t want me anymore. I feel hopeless.” “I want it and I want it now. I’m sick of this shit.” Are you frustrated with your sex life? I have a lot of empathy for men […]
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Ever heard the expression? If so, then you may understand like my client Mauricio did, that in relationship, the saying applies doubly so. Mauricio would get into an argument with his wife and then for hours afterward, he would beat himself up. He’d spiral into fear about how his wife would deprive him of […]
Most of us have our own version of this story. Do you? You met your wife x number of years ago. At first, it was great. Sweet connection. Wonderful sex. The urge to merge. You got engaged and then married. And then you had a family and things changed over time. You were no longer each other’s priority. Kids came. […]
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She talks. I listen. She talks some more. I listen some more. On a good day, her words are about someone or something else and I can help her figure things out. On a bad day, her words are about me and what I don’t do right and what I do wrong. I want to do better but after a […]
Serve, protect, provide. This is the mantra, conscious or not, that drives the behaviors of many married men. Ultimately, most men want to make their wives happy. So in that effort, he’s willing to overlook a lot of challenging behaviors from her. Do you seek to make your wife happy? If so, that’s great. But ask yourself for a moment, […]
New Years. Yeah, whatever. The older I get, the more “whatever” I can get with the new year and resolutions. That is until I am reminded that it’s a chance to consider how I can up my game in my life and relationship. What would you like to create in your relationship in the new year? It’s not an easy […]
