That night, all those years ago, I sat on the dream bed in the dream house, totally confused. I had no idea that I was being called to an initiation. Yet, something mysterious tugged at me, challenging me to move away from my marriage, and be willing to lose everything as I knew it. But I was frozen. Clearly, my […]
She lies on the bed. Her face glows. She is in her most sensual lace undies and bra. He stands at the foot of the bed, his shirt off. His excitement to enter her is uncontainable. Her desire to receive him is palpable. She reaches out to him with her arms, saying, “Come to me.” All of her is open […]
WARNING: Explicit sexual content. Every guy has felt it. Yes, he has felt it. I have felt it. He is inside of her. He feels ecstasy. He feels euphoria. He feels… complete… eternal… immortal He loves her more than ever. “Ooh baby, you’re so amazing. I love you. I love you. I love you!’ He has gone back to his […]
A man cries. Something opens up in him. He can’t hold in his pain anymore. His heart hurts. His wife has left him. Or he has left her. Either way, he grieves. Men cry. I see this often in my work. Contrary to common belief, they are strong men. Very strong. Strong enough to… Access their sadness. Trust others to […]
Withholds — it’s not a word often spoken between couples. And yet withholds are everywhere in relationship. Maybe you don’t speak a hard truth to your partner. Or maybe you don’t ask for what you need. Or maybe you don’t put the work you want to into your primary relationship (i.e. look at yourself, repair conflict, etc) These are withholds — places where you keep […]
The Ideal Relationship — What’s it look like? Have you ever been in one? When I’ve asked clients, they’ve said things like: We’re deeply connected. We stay open to one another. We never fight. Notice the last statement. Do you know couples who never fight? Anyone come to mind? Likely not. How about we change that last statement to “we navigate […]
Conflict in relationship – it sucks. You know how it goes. She says this. He says that. She gets angry. He gets pissed. Something hurtful is said somewhere along the way. Both of you are triggered and feel really unsafe. Two individuals, supposedly together, spin down separate rabbit holes. Thoughts fly off the handle. Do I have a future with […]
“There’s this thing,” a client says to me. Mark looks up to the heavens, as if he’ll find the word there. He’s 51. “It’s happening with me and Felicia. I’m not sure what to call it. It’s… a lining up of sorts. Love… and yet something else…” He looks up again. “It’s like she knows what I’m thinking. Not like […]
First, thanks to those who reached out to me last week. I shared a vulnerable post and an outpouring of support, trust, and connection came my way. A few people asked me, “Are you ok? I am here for you.” Others said, “Thanks for sharing. This really helped me during a hard time.” And some said, “You’re really brave.” It touched […]
A share like this is vulnerable for me. I’m not the type to seek personal support online. And yet I seek connection, more than support. I was in a really dark place, about 10 days ago. Anxiety, panic, depression. A sense of the bottom torn out from under me. A hysterical undercurrent of – Would I live? I’m undergoing a […]
