Christmas. How will you spend it this year? Will you wake up, greeted by family? Or maybe you’ll be alone? Maybe you don’t even celebrate it. Regardless, it’s a time of year when we often take stock of our relationships. With a spouse or partner, we may become aware of how we are in connection or not. How things have […]
To be in relationship is to step into a boxing ring. We take blows and dish them out. We pivot left and right. In the first few rounds, we perform all kinds of fancy footwork to impress our partner. In the thick of trying to make things work – fulfill a partner’s needs or advocate for our own – a […]
Front of mind and back of mind. These are the two places where we typically hold a committed partner when love is unrequited or relationship challenges arise. In front, is when we are in fear… Of losing a partner. Of it being over. Of the threat of relationship ending or divorce. Monkey mind and scared heart run the scripts – What […]
My client Felicia is in her car. Her kids are driving her mad fighting in the back seat. It’s after school. She’s at her wit’s end, compounded by other stresses – a bungled work email, an IRS tax bill she forgot to pay, her husband’s complaint about something earlier that morning. She fears the soccer coach taking it out on […]
Truth: Only with our partner do our shadows appear most ferociously and triggers fly off the handle, often like a tornado that blindsides us. She said this… I said that and… hmmm… I don’t know what happened after that. Instead of checking out – a habit that descends over time into one day your partner being less interesting than your […]
Stuart will be a featured panelist on the panel entitled “Mean And Divorce: Surviving, Thriving, and Starting Over”. This panel will take place on Thursday, June 21 at 6pm MT / 8pm ET. This event is hosted by Dr Sally Spencer Thomas. Tune in on Twitter at #ElevateTheConvo .
