I talk a lot about conflict in relationship. It’s where a man needs help most. It’s the biggest problem in his relationship that he wishes he could solve. Do you argue or fight with your partner? If so, you’re not alone. From years of coaching men, I’ve seen that most guys don’t do conflict well. For most men, it’s just […]
Marriage is a sacrifice. I hear this often. Do you believe that? Before you answer, consider the definition of sacrifice. “An act of slaughtering an animal or person or surrendering a possession as an offering to God or to a divine or supernatural figure.” Ok, maybe you’re not actually slaughtering an animal, but… Are you slaughtering yourself for a divine ideal? Most […]
“She’s always coming at me with a charge. It’s like I have to take on her anger just to stay married to her.” James pauses and looks away for a moment. “Half of the time I’m not even sure what she’s angry about.” He throws his hands up in frustration. “The other day, she barked at me because I didn’t secure […]
Men often come to me exasperated. They’re working hard at their job, helping out at home, and with their kids. And then they hear their partner say, “I don’t feel like you’re on my team.” It often leaves a guy feeling blindsided. What? Not on your team? I’m busting my ass for you. Have you ever been told that you’re not on […]
Let’s say you have relationship problems. Where’s the first place you might turn? Likely, it’s a therapist. That makes sense. There are lots of therapists out there. A dude assumes he’s got stuff to work out. But when it comes to fixing his relationship problems, therapy often falls short for most men. Why do guys often struggle in therapy? In short, […]
“BOOM! One day she asked me for a divorce,” John says to me. He’s absolutely blindsided, as if it came out of nowhere. But yet it didn’t. He and his wife rarely had sex. They were more like roommates than a married couple. And to deal or not deal, he worked a lot. Are you asleep at the steering wheel […]
A man walks delicately around his partner. In any moment, she might reprimand him. It’s a pattern in their relationship. In reaction, he thinks, If only she’d give me some peace of mind. If only she’d stay out of my shit, not be after me so much, then I could rest, then I could be ok. He rolls out of bed in […]
Charles shoots me a quick email. Eventually, we talk. He says something I hear from a lot of guys. “I can never be enough for her. I do 9 out of the 10 things she asks me to do. And then I get railed on for not doing the 10th thing.” Can you relate to not being enough for your partner? I’ve […]
It’s a question I get asked often. Twice, in fact, this past week on two different podcasts. When is it time to pack it in? Call it quits? Pull the divorce trigger? It’s a tough spot for a GOOD GUY. A guy who doesn’t want to be the asshole who blows up his marriage. Or fears being the jerk whose […]
3 guys in marriages that feel hopeless have a similar story. We never have sex. I can’t make her happy. It’s hopeless. You’ve heard it before. And yet… Are you living in what feels like a hopeless marriage? I was that guy. You know, feeling stuck in the marital dead zone. Maybe you’re like guy #3. Fine with the dead […]
