Your blind spot. The place that you can’t see between your rearview and sideview mirror. You check it when you can. But every once in a while, you get lazy. You go to make that lane change, without checking your blind spot… And then BAM! You smash into something. And you realize, it was that damn blind spot. What the […]
Ever been in a fight with your wife and thought, Jeez, we’ve been having the same argument for 15 years? You didn’t do A, B, or C so many years ago, she says, then you didn’t do it again last week. You’re careless and all you think about is yourself and you’ll never change. Do you wonder, how did we […]
Here’s a crazy phenomenon I see with many married men. Are you this guy? A man walks into his kitchen to get a snack after working in his office. His wife walks into the kitchen. And bam, out of nowhere, she starts coming at him. “Hey,” she says, “you said you’d take care of the appointment for the kids. I never got […]
I’ve heard guys say that trying to improve your marriage can feel like an uphill climb. You often take two steps forward and one step back. The effort burns. Each step feels like a slog. You wonder, what’s it gonna take? Does being happy in your relationship feel like an uphill climb? Well, that’s how it works when you repeat the […]
Your wife hates her boss. Or maybe she’s struggling to lose weight. Or she’s upset at your kid’s teacher for how they were treated. She wants you to listen about what’s upsetting her. So you do it. You listen. Maybe you’ve heard that you’re supposed to just listen and not fix her problem. Maybe you’ve even watched the “Nail in […]
Steve gets feedback from his wife – well, more like criticism. “‘You don’t contribute to the family. You’re not present for me. You’re on your phone too much,’ she says to me.” Steve sighs. Is your wife tough on you? A lot of guys hear these words, or similar, from their wife. Good guys, just like you and me. Men who […]
Every day, we wake up and have the opportunity to tend to our kingdom. How are you tending to yours in these challenging times? Do you show up as the hero of your own story? Or the victim? When it’s the latter, do you even notice? Or do you unconsciously go down the rabbit hole of victim consciousness? Time out! No shame. Instead, […]
A man knows he has to get out of his marriage, change it, do something. And yet he does nothing; fear cripples him. Is this man you? This man is divided. He fears the fallout of change but knows he must make change. He works with me. We go deep into his fears. We create a path forward in which he can honor […]
“The feminine in a man?” A big burly man says. His massive biceps dwarf his muscle shirt, as he lifts at the gym. “Ha, you got to be kidding me. Next thing you know, you’ll be asking me to be join the knitting club.” “That manly man ain’t so manly,” another man says, “if he’s afraid of his heart.” Ok, […]
There’s one question that disarms couples in a moment of conflict. Prefer to watch me present live? The Conflict John and Susan zoom in to me on video chat from South Carolina. John’s a high level executive with a steel company. And while he spends a lot of time at work, he’s aging and well aware that his home life […]
