Sex. It’s often a big lack in a man’s life. Especially if he’s been married for many years. Is sex missing in your relationship? You may have reached a point where you’ve thrown in the towel on your sex life. It may not even be something you think much about anymore with your partner. Well, ok, you think about it. […]
There’s something in your relationship. Something you avoid talking about with your partner. Something under the surface. A stress. A fear. A sense of something not right. Something not out in the open. Do you feel that something with your partner? Maybe you bury it down. Or you kick it down the road. Maybe it’s a rock you fear looking under. Or […]
Rick was a successful entrepreneur. The kind of guy who kicked ass at work. Good looking, fit, smart. He didn’t seem like the kind of guy who played small in the world. But at home, that’s precisely what he did. He tried not to upset his wife. He walked on eggshells around her. And he swirled in one question. How can […]
“Are you crazy? Ask her for sex?” my client Tom asked me. “She’ll freak out on me.” I had just encouraged Tom to ask his wife for what he wanted from her. In his own words, that was sex. Simple enough. “How is avoiding it serving you?” I said to him. He thought about it. Like many men I coach, […]
Fear. It’s a bear in relationship. It can weigh a man down. A lot. Fear of not being enough for her. Fear of letting her down. Fear of not making her happy. I’ve seen all kinds of fears from guys during years of coaching men in their relationships. And the biggest thing I teach guys is this… It’s not her that […]
There’s a secret a lot of guys won’t speak. To speak it goes against the guy code. And it’s this. “I can’t be weak.” And often a man doesn’t know he holds this belief until he hits rock bottom in his relationship. Until he actually feels weak. It’s only then that he realizes how much time and energy he put in to avoid a reality […]
It’s hard for a man to pinpoint. That exact moment when things flatlined in his relationship. Especially after so many years together. My client Michael wonders. When did it happen? He doesn’t know. And yet undeniably, there’s something missing in his relationship. A fire. A passion. An excitement. A desire for one another. Sex. He hungers for it. Do you feel something missing in […]
“She’s always coming at me with a charge. It’s like I have to take on her anger just to stay married to her.” James pauses and looks away for a moment. “Half of the time I’m not even sure what she’s angry about.” He throws his hands up in frustration. “The other day, she barked at me because I didn’t secure […]
Guy forgets things at times. Things his wife asks of him. Recently, he forgot to get lettuce at the supermarket. The month prior, he didn’t call Comcast to get the internet fixed. And this past winter, he spaced on Valentine’s Day. “You’re unreliable,” his wife said to him. “I can’t trust you.” OUCH! Painful words for a man to hear. Guy didn’t […]
Men often come to me exasperated. They’re working hard at their job, helping out at home, and with their kids. And then they hear their partner say, “I don’t feel like you’re on my team.” It often leaves a guy feeling blindsided. What? Not on your team? I’m busting my ass for you. Have you ever been told that you’re not on […]
