Richard, a sales executive, speaks to me across the screen from New York. He’s exasperated. “She’s always freaking out. I’m tired of it. She’s fucking crazy.” Do you ever think your wife is crazy? Richard did. “I just want things to be OK, fluid. Every little thing becomes a big deal with her. Yesterday she freaked on me because I […]
When a man’s marriage tanks, he asks himself questions like… Can I continue to live like this? How can things change? What can I do about it? And in this place, your options can feel limited. You can easily feel trapped and resigned. Are you living out a life sentence in your marriage? If you’ve ever felt this way, it’s […]
Here’s a story about a guy, a CEO, who struggled to go after what he wanted with his wife. All that changed with one simple question, which I’ll offer to you momentarily. Up front, people tend to think CEO’s have it made. They’ve achieved success. They’ve made their money. But the reality is they’re humans, just like you and me. […]
Your blind spot. The place that you can’t see between your rearview and sideview mirror. You check it when you can. But every once in a while, you get lazy. You go to make that lane change, without checking your blind spot… And then BAM! You smash into something. And you realize, it was that damn blind spot. What the […]
Ever been in a fight with your wife and thought, Jeez, we’ve been having the same argument for 15 years? You didn’t do A, B, or C so many years ago, she says, then you didn’t do it again last week. You’re careless and all you think about is yourself and you’ll never change. Do you wonder, how did we […]
“I love my wife. We have a great life. I want to make things work. “But…,” Ryan pauses and considers if he will reveal his secret. I nod my head, giving him the cue that it’s ok to speak. “I’m miserable,” he says, conflicted inside. Do you feel conflicted about the current state of your marriage? A part of Ryan […]
Relationship is a confusing minefield for many men. That was once true for me during a 20 year marriage. She says one thing one day and then something else another day. From I don’t know what she really wants to she’s nuts or I just want peace, a lot of men resign themselves to confusion and the status quo. Yet, underneath is a feeling that […]
Let’s say you have relationship problems. Where’s the first place you might turn? Likely, it’s a therapist. That makes sense. There are lots of therapists out there. A dude assumes he’s got stuff to work out. But when it comes to fixing his relationship problems, therapy often falls short for most men. Why do guys often struggle in therapy? In short, […]
A guy complains that his wife never wants to have sex. He’s a good guy who loves his wife a lot. He strives to be kind, considerate, and loving. Is he doing something wrong? “She’s just shut down. It’s hard to be with a woman who doesn’t like sex,” he says. I relate. Years ago, in my marriage, I thought my […]
“BOOM! One day she asked me for a divorce,” John says to me. He’s absolutely blindsided, as if it came out of nowhere. But yet it didn’t. He and his wife rarely had sex. They were more like roommates than a married couple. And to deal or not deal, he worked a lot. Are you asleep at the steering wheel […]
