You’re a man. Or maybe you’re a woman. Or you’re non-binary. It doesn’t matter. You’re human. You do this thing – we all do – but nobody talks about it. And it’s the #1 way we screw up our relationships. Why doesn’t anyone talk about it? Well, it would likely be SEEN as bad news. We, humans, prefer good news […]
There’s this dynamic I see often between couples. She nags. He gets angry. She feels like she’s with a child. He feels like he’s with his mother. She doesn’t trust him with little things. He placates her by doing what he can. She wants him to be more responsive. He wants to run. And in the space between, they lose […]
“I want more from you,” she says. He listens, scanning stock prices on his phone. “Did you hear me?” she says. “I’m listening. I’m listening,” he says. “Can I have five minutes without the phone?” “What! What’s going on?” He can tell he’s failed her in some way. He continues scanning his phone. “Is now a good time to talk?” […]
“With you, I see me. A me I only see with you,” he says to her. She says nothing. Her green eyes meet his hazel. “Are you happy to hear that? Or is it a burden to you?” he says. Still, she says nothing. Merely holds his gaze. He likes that she does not respond. Do I say this because […]
“How do I know when I’m trying to fix him?” she asks. Maria often forwards her husband relationship blogs, like the one you’re reading now. She’s admitted to it – trying to fix him. She knows it’s a problem. Yet she still does it. Men do it as well. I used to be a fixer. But it’s more common with […]
She touches me like I’m superman. But I don’t want to be superman. And yet I feel like him in her presence. “I hit the jackpot with you, baby,” she says. She says big things like this to me often. “I just want you to be you!” Bam! That’s what I want – to be me. Before I really knew her, […]
