“Too bad if you don’t like who I am!” a guy says. He walks out on his wife, thinking, F*#k her, I don’t need this shit anymore. Have you ever been pissed & walked out on your partner? I have. It feels like shit, especially when it happens often. And afterwards, maybe you’re thinking, Do I really have to go back home […]
3 guys in marriages that feel hopeless have a similar story. We never have sex. I can’t make her happy. It’s hopeless. You’ve heard it before. And yet… Are you living in what feels like a hopeless marriage? I was that guy. You know, feeling stuck in the marital dead zone. Maybe you’re like guy #3. Fine with the dead […]
Rick hadn’t been intimate with his wife for almost a year. They’d been married for fifteen. “Once in a blue moon, she’ll let me touch her breasts,” Rick said, as if reluctantly accepting a consolation prize. His options, in his view, were to stay in a sexless marriage or leave and risk losing his family. The double bind of Damned if you do, […]
A man is struggling in his marriage. But he doesn’t know that there are options for him to improve things. Options beyond HIDING OUT on his phone, ESCAPING through work, getting his physical needs met through porn, or RUNNING from reality into booze or pot. In truth, he feels crappy about acting like this. He hides his behaviors from his kids and wife, and at times, has them out […]
At least several times per month I hear a version of this from guys who contact me. “She’s always bossing me around. It’s constant,” Bill, a father of two, says. “She tells me, ‘You never listen to me. You didn’t do this. You didn’t do that. And what about that other thing I asked you to do?’” Do YOU EVER feel like you’re […]
THIS is the moment when it ALL changes. As in NOTHING will ever be the same again. EVER. The moment when he becomes the guy DONE thinking… I shoulda’ said that. If only I’d have done that. Next time I’m gonna tell her. Do you know that guy? Are You That Guy? Who isn’t? I was that guy. 7 years ago. And then it ALL changed. […]
Sol was an account executive with a broadband company. He worked his ass off at work. You know, the whole “climb the ladder” thing. But even better for him, he loved what he did. Much of his work served the developed world. A mission he believed in. At home, it was good and all but… there’s always a but. Anyway, he came to me […]
In these coronavirus times, I’m seeing some remarkable things. Men are getting real, vulnerable, removing their masks and exposing their fears on a mass cultural level like never before. I don’t ever recall New York Times columnist David Brooks speak so intimately. Would you be willing to describe how the coronavirus is affecting your mental health? Is the combination of isolation […]
My world is quiet. It’s early morning. The homes opposite me are blanketed in snow. I am homebound here in Colorado. Homebound, probably just like you. Who’d have ever thought it would all come to this? Sure, maybe years ago you made it through Y2k unscathed like me, with a few extra propane tanks in your garage. But now. Now […]
He can never make her happy. Nothing is ever enough. What can he do? And then one day she says she wants a divorce. He is stunned. More and more men are having this experience today. Women are initiating 70% and even more of divorces these days. Keith saw the writing on the wall in his marriage. He had hit a threshold. His […]
