First, thanks to those who reached out to me last week. I shared a vulnerable post and an outpouring of support, trust, and connection came my way. A few people asked me, “Are you ok? I am here for you.” Others said, “Thanks for sharing. This really helped me during a hard time.” And some said, “You’re really brave.” It touched […]
A share like this is vulnerable for me. I’m not the type to seek personal support online. And yet I seek connection, more than support. I was in a really dark place, about 10 days ago. Anxiety, panic, depression. A sense of the bottom torn out from under me. A hysterical undercurrent of – Would I live? I’m undergoing a […]
Sovereignty — I talk a lot about it. It’s the crux of my own personal path. It’s what we seek in a partner, often not even knowing it. “He’s his own man.” “She’s a powerhouse.” “You really know how to love.” It’s that sense of being with someone solid, grounded, and consistent. We know where we stand. We can relax […]
Ah, to fall in love… the spell… the fireworks.. the endorphins…the sex.. the fullness we feel with the One. How sweet it is to be in love with you. You complete me. I am someone else with you. The escape from self infuses us with a euphoria and joy like no other. Poets, romantics, and dreamers have written about it […]
You’re a man. Or maybe you’re a woman. Or you’re non-binary. It doesn’t matter. You’re human. You do this thing – we all do – but nobody talks about it. And it’s the #1 way we screw up our relationships. Why doesn’t anyone talk about it? Well, it would likely be SEEN as bad news. We, humans, prefer good news […]
“I want more from you,” she says. He listens, scanning stock prices on his phone. “Did you hear me?” she says. “I’m listening. I’m listening,” he says. “Can I have five minutes without the phone?” “What! What’s going on?” He can tell he’s failed her in some way. He continues scanning his phone. “Is now a good time to talk?” […]
“With you, I see me. A me I only see with you,” he says to her. She says nothing. Her green eyes meet his hazel. “Are you happy to hear that? Or is it a burden to you?” he says. Still, she says nothing. Merely holds his gaze. He likes that she does not respond. Do I say this because […]
“How do I know when I’m trying to fix him?” she asks. Maria often forwards her husband relationship blogs, like the one you’re reading now. She’s admitted to it – trying to fix him. She knows it’s a problem. Yet she still does it. Men do it as well. I used to be a fixer. But it’s more common with […]
The fighting man or feeling man. In my last post, I spoke about both. But I did not speak about another kind of man – the Fixer. He shuts off feeling by trying to fix. He’s the solutions guy. He’s super logical. And yet often a woman feels empty with him, wondering, where’s his heart? When she talks about how she’s […]
The party was full on. Strobe lights flashing, Bruno Mars blasting in a friend’s basement. A group of us were getting down, joyful and sweaty. During a break in songs, I headed upstairs. As I climbed the last stair, out of nowhere, a woman’s club-like palm smashed my face. “Fuck You! Who do you think you are…?” Her skewed vowels revealed […]
