Sovereignty — I talk a lot about it. It’s the crux of my own personal path. It’s what we seek in a partner, often not even knowing it. “He’s his own man.” “She’s a powerhouse.” “You really know how to love.” It’s that sense of being with someone solid, grounded, and consistent. We know where we stand. We can relax […]
Ah, to fall in love… the spell… the fireworks.. the endorphins…the sex.. the fullness we feel with the One. How sweet it is to be in love with you. You complete me. I am someone else with you. The escape from self infuses us with a euphoria and joy like no other. Poets, romantics, and dreamers have written about it […]
You’re a man. Or maybe you’re a woman. Or you’re non-binary. It doesn’t matter. You’re human. You do this thing – we all do – but nobody talks about it. And it’s the #1 way we screw up our relationships. Why doesn’t anyone talk about it? Well, it would likely be SEEN as bad news. We, humans, prefer good news […]
There’s this dynamic I see often between couples. She nags. He gets angry. She feels like she’s with a child. He feels like he’s with his mother. She doesn’t trust him with little things. He placates her by doing what he can. She wants him to be more responsive. He wants to run. And in the space between, they lose […]
“I want more from you,” she says. He listens, scanning stock prices on his phone. “Did you hear me?” she says. “I’m listening. I’m listening,” he says. “Can I have five minutes without the phone?” “What! What’s going on?” He can tell he’s failed her in some way. He continues scanning his phone. “Is now a good time to talk?” […]
“With you, I see me. A me I only see with you,” he says to her. She says nothing. Her green eyes meet his hazel. “Are you happy to hear that? Or is it a burden to you?” he says. Still, she says nothing. Merely holds his gaze. He likes that she does not respond. Do I say this because […]
“How do I know when I’m trying to fix him?” she asks. Maria often forwards her husband relationship blogs, like the one you’re reading now. She’s admitted to it – trying to fix him. She knows it’s a problem. Yet she still does it. Men do it as well. I used to be a fixer. But it’s more common with […]
She touches me like I’m superman. But I don’t want to be superman. And yet I feel like him in her presence. “I hit the jackpot with you, baby,” she says. She says big things like this to me often. “I just want you to be you!” Bam! That’s what I want – to be me. Before I really knew her, […]
The fighting man or feeling man. In my last post, I spoke about both. But I did not speak about another kind of man – the Fixer. He shuts off feeling by trying to fix. He’s the solutions guy. He’s super logical. And yet often a woman feels empty with him, wondering, where’s his heart? When she talks about how she’s […]
The party was full on. Strobe lights flashing, Bruno Mars blasting in a friend’s basement. A group of us were getting down, joyful and sweaty. During a break in songs, I headed upstairs. As I climbed the last stair, out of nowhere, a woman’s club-like palm smashed my face. “Fuck You! Who do you think you are…?” Her skewed vowels revealed […]
