Truth: Only with our partner do our shadows appear most ferociously and triggers fly off the handle, often like a tornado that blindsides us. She said this… I said that and… hmmm… I don’t know what happened after that. Instead of checking out – a habit that descends over time into one day your partner being less interesting than your […]
Yesterday I stood in front of 15 people to speak about the unlived life of the couple. Something I had never done before. And yet something I knew deeply in my bones during my 25 year relationship with my beloved.
Mandela personified a man always with his eye on the next great hill to climb. He made it his modus operandi to look at what was confronting him – be it a jail cell, a revolution, a fragile nation – and to see the opportunity of what lay ahead of him.
I did the young love in the 20’s thing without kids. I did the mid 30’s with kid. And then I did the mid 40’s thing with older kid. And yes, all with the same person. In all phases of relationship, I know firsthand that an energized and…
One person talks for five minutes about his or her experience of his/her life right now. He or she talks about himself, owning his life, her experience, his feelings, without any blame toward the other, only presence of self. (And this is a practice that takes practice.)
It’s a powerful word. To be free or freed from a confinement, enslavement, or restriction. To enter a new and open landscape of possibilities and opportunities.
