“I don’t put the dishes away. “I don’t spend enough time with the kids. “She doesn’t feel like I’m on her team. “It’s endless. Sometimes I wonder why she even stays married to me,” Jack says. Does your wife complain about you? “Why does she stay married to you? Have you asked her?” I say. Jack takes a deep breath. […]
Philip, a high-earning financial consultant, taps his fingers on the small table next to him. I wonder how long he’ll last in this session. His wife Tamara complains about how he is checked out. How he can’t even be with his family for 10 minutes without being on his phone. Mincing no words, she says, “I feel like I’m in […]
Disclaimer: crude content. The truth is in your cock. It’s in your balls. The evidence is in your body. You want to have more sex than your wife. Maybe she’s distant. She’s cold. She’s timid, closed off, or uninterested in sex. It feels like a slap in the face. A closed door to a critical part of you. You’re a […]
Freedom. It’s one of the greatest values we men cherish and hold. Be it the freedom to do what we want. Believe what we want. Or just live our lives as we please. And yet often at a young age, in our 20s or 30s, we do something that goes counter to maintaining our freedom. We get married. Yes, you […]
Every married guy has been here. What about you? Your wife asks you your opinion on something – the curtains, the placemats, or a school thing with your kid. So you give your opinion. I like the blue curtains. The red placemats look great. Sure, let’s get a tutor for Billy. And then she does what she wants, as if […]
Dave’s head is spinning. His wife just told him that she doesn’t feel like he’s on her team. “Baby,” he says, “I work 10 hours a day, I do everything I can for us to have a good life.” “Yes, that’s fine,” she says. “But I don’t feel like you love me.” “What did I do wrong?” He asks her. […]
Fear. It shows up often in relationship. I hear a lot of men saying things like… I fear her anger. Or, I fear I’ll never be enough for her. I also hear, I fear she’ll never want to have sex again. I fear that if I try to talk about it, she’s gonna blow up at me. Do you have […]
“She has no idea how hard I work.” Robert, a seven-figure tech entrepreneur, shakes his head. “Does she think I slave away all day just for me? “I want all the wonderful things that she wants. In fact, I love providing for her. But damn if…” He pauses, thinks. “Ok, fine, she’s made it clear, I need to show up […]
We’ve been together 7 years, a man says. We’ve been together 12 years, says another. We’ve been together 22 years, says a third guy. What do all these guys have in common? All of them flatlined in their marriages. They all felt dead inside with their partner. They struggled with passion in their marriages. Passion. It often fades in a […]
I remember 8 years ago, I first started asking the question. It was in my kitchen where I was washing the dishes in my suburban house in Boulder, CO. Feeling quite desperate and overwhelmed with everything in my life – from running my business, helping run a household, raising a son, and all the other stuff that comes with it. […]
