Healthy boundaries. Maybe you’ve heard of them. Maybe you’ve even heard that they are good for your marriage or relationship. And yet maybe you’re still trying to figure out how the heck to implement them. If that’s you, you won’t want to miss this podcast in which I speak in detail about: How to deal with the childish part of […]
Recently, I emailed you a video called “The #1 Sex Killer.” It was about how you could be unknowingly killing off your partner’s sexual appetite. I spoke about how to stop that pattern. I also gave a tip on how to do the opposite — to become more attractive to her. But that didn’t sit too well with one guy. […]
I hear a lot from guys I work with, about how their partner complains to him, saying things like.. “You don’t consider me.” “You never remember to ________.” (fill it in) “You’re always on your phone.” Has that ever happened to you? How do you respond? Or do you react? Do you want to learn a samurai trick to bring […]
In marriage and relationship, at a certain point, things flatline. It’s inevitable. It is not cynical. It’s just how it is. At a certain point, we get so safe in the relationship that we stop aspiring towards what lights us up. And often we can’t put our finger on when that happened. Then one day, we live into a future […]
New Years. Yeah, whatever. The older I get, the more “whatever” I can get with the new year and resolutions. That is, until I am reminded that it’s a chance to consider how I can up my game in my life and relationship. What would you like to create in your relationship in the new year? It’s not an easy […]
The holidays can be a super-challenging time for a married guy or any man in relationship. His wife’s over-spending on excessive gifts. Trying to be “joyful” with her when you’re just not. The sense of obligation to be on your best behavior for the kids. It can all leave a guy dreading the holidays. Yet these are mere symptoms of […]
Eight years ago, I was 44 years old, married 17 years, with a 15-year-old son. I’d been through many death and life cycles in my marriage. I was about to go through another one. My wife and I were in the kitchen, talking about what we should get my son for Christmas. She asked for my opinion. I brought my […]
“It’s been months since we´ve been intimate,” Bob says to me. “I try to go near her and she pulls away. What the hell? This is insane.” “This is my wife, the woman I committed to being monogamous with, and yet she won´t even let me touch her.” Do you struggle when it comes to intimacy with your wife? A […]
Every week I talk to guys with some version of this experience. I’ve been married to my wife for x number of years. I do A and she wants me to do B. I ask her what she wants of me and she says I should just know. After so many years together, I still don’t know what she wants […]
“This being human is a guest house” is the first line from a Rumi poem. The line means things happen in life and we get to decide if we flow with them or resist. It speaks to when you feel like things are happening TO you instead of FOR you. In your marriage, that might be the same old conflict […]
