Ever been in a fight with your wife and thought, Jeez, we’ve been having the same argument for 15 years? You didn’t do A, B, or C so many years ago, she says, then you didn’t do it again last week. You’re careless and all you think about is yourself and you’ll never change. Do you wonder, how did we […]
“I love my wife. We have a great life. I want to make things work. “But…,” Ryan pauses and considers if he will reveal his secret. I nod my head, giving him the cue that it’s ok to speak. “I’m miserable,” he says, conflicted inside. Do you feel conflicted about the current state of your marriage? A part of Ryan […]
Here’s a crazy phenomenon I see with many married men. Are you this guy? A man walks into his kitchen to get a snack after working in his office. His wife walks into the kitchen. And bam, out of nowhere, she starts coming at him. “Hey,” she says, “you said you’d take care of the appointment for the kids. I never got […]
Dave’s wife left him. Out of the blue. It was sudden. One day he came back from his law office and his wife and kids were gone. The writing had been on the wall. But he was too busy working to see it. As a high powered attorney, my client Dave was not used to being at the mercy of […]
I’ve heard guys say that trying to improve your marriage can feel like an uphill climb. You often take two steps forward and one step back. The effort burns. Each step feels like a slog. You wonder, what’s it gonna take? Does being happy in your relationship feel like an uphill climb? Well, that’s how it works when you repeat the […]
Your wife hates her boss. Or maybe she’s struggling to lose weight. Or she’s upset at your kid’s teacher for how they were treated. She wants you to listen about what’s upsetting her. So you do it. You listen. Maybe you’ve heard that you’re supposed to just listen and not fix her problem. Maybe you’ve even watched the “Nail in […]
Tony, a high-level executive, comes to me trying to get a handle on his marriage. “Nothing I do ever seems like it’s enough for my wife. I’m not home enough, she says. I don’t spend enough time with the kids. I work my ass off and I show up as the best partner possible.” He pauses, sighs. “I’m at a loss. I […]
My client Robert tells me about how his wife dislikes him spending time with a close family member of his. This is someone super important to him, who he really wants to see more often. Does your partner ever object to who you spend time with? Robert goes on for a bit about the details of the situation. He’s a […]
Steve gets feedback from his wife – well, more like criticism. “‘You don’t contribute to the family. You’re not present for me. You’re on your phone too much,’ she says to me.” Steve sighs. Is your wife tough on you? A lot of guys hear these words, or similar, from their wife. Good guys, just like you and me. Men who […]
Tom looks across the dinner table at his wife of twenty years. He’s eating the same breaded chicken and mashed potatoes that he’s eaten once a week for the last god knows how many years. Some words are exchanged. His wife does most of the talking. Tom notices how much his wife likes to talk. And how little he cares about what she has to […]
