I remember 8 years ago, I first started asking the question. It was in my kitchen where I was washing the dishes in my suburban house in Boulder, CO. Feeling quite desperate and overwhelmed with everything in my life – from running my business, helping run a household, raising a son, and all the other stuff that comes with it. […]
William is a high-powered exec in his day job but a humiliated servant at home. His wife steamrolls over him when it comes to just about anything. On top of that, she wants him to step up and be more manly. And while he has a sense of what it means to be more “manly,” he wonders, how the hell […]
Rick was like many of my clients. A high-achieving executive, he crushed it at work but at home all his skills and talents fell flat. His marriage was floundering and his wife was unhappy. Do you get more validation at work than from your wife? If you do, it would make sense that you might be avoidant at home. Such […]
The internet is flooded with tactics for men on how to fix their marriage. Yeah, that’s right fix it. Guys are hungry for a fix. And so they hear things like… Be the alpha male and take charge of things. Don’t let her neuroses rock your calm masculinity. Get her to do what you want with your clarity. The problem […]
We live in unprecedented times, when a woman is more independent than ever. What a great thing – be it climbing the corporate ladder, pursuing her spiritual journey, or living in her freedom and autonomy. At its best, the new landscape offers a woman many options in her life. At its worst, she uses her independence to disconnect from her […]
“She does it all the time. Makes me feel bad for what I didn’t do or how I don’t show up.” Joel says these words about his wife. He’s an eight-figure entrepreneur who doesn’t have these problems at work. The problem is that at home Joel falls prey to his wife’s tactics. He justifies it, wanting to be a better […]
Rob, an Executive VP and client, wants more kindness from his wife. Not even sex or connection just kindness. It seems like a low bar and the least he can expect from his wife of 15 years. Instead, he gets degradation, denigration, and verbal abuse. Do you experience verbal abuse from your wife? Rob struggled to identify it as verbal […]
The house of your marriage is on fire. You spin in the same conflict with your wife. You hear the same words from her. “I can’t trust you. You don’t do what you say. I don’t feel like you’re on my team.” It’s enough for a guy to lose hope in the future of his marriage. And even worse, lose […]
You commit to one woman. She’s the one you will be with. She’s the one woman with whom you will have sex. You’ve committed to her in marriage or monogamy. And then, the door closes. Over time during your relationship, she closes the door behind the sex life you once shared. Has your partner closed the door on your sex […]
ve been sharing a bed with her for 20 years now,” James, a senior tech analyst and client, says to me. “Typically at night, my wife will sit in bed, reading her book and I’m just thinking, how can I connect with her? “Then I go to touch her, caress her arm. And then she’ll give me that look, like, […]
