Your marriage is like a ship. You and your wife are the captains. It is your responsibility to co-pilot the ship together. And yet after years together, both of you let go of the wheel. Have you captained the ship of your marriage? If not, in time the ship hits a channel of rocks. And yes, that’s why we say, […]
Sex. It’s often a big lack in a man’s life. Especially if he’s been married for many years. Is sex missing in your relationship? You may have reached a point where you’ve thrown in the towel on your sex life. It may not even be something you think much about anymore with your partner. Well, ok, you think about it. […]
“I’m gonna die here,” I thought, staring at the picture-perfect suburban yard. I washed dinner dishes at the sink in our family dream home, as I did most nights, trying to be a good guy, to support my wife who had chronic illness. I was that guy. Do you prioritize your wife’s well-being over your own happiness? I did. And […]
This was me once. It might be you. Your wife treats you like a second-class citizen. She belittles you. She acts as if you have little to offer her or your family. Does your wife ever belittle you? In response, you try to show up as your best. You’re a good guy who wants to contribute. And yet your efforts […]
Here’s a story about a guy, a CEO, who struggled to go after what he wanted with his wife. All that changed with one simple question, which I’ll offer to you momentarily. Up front, people tend to think CEO’s have it made. They’ve achieved success. They’ve made their money. But the reality is they’re humans, just like you and me. […]
Your blind spot. The place that you can’t see between your rearview and sideview mirror. You check it when you can. But every once in a while, you get lazy. You go to make that lane change, without checking your blind spot… And then BAM! You smash into something. And you realize, it was that damn blind spot. What the […]
Ever been in a fight with your wife and thought, Jeez, we’ve been having the same argument for 15 years? You didn’t do A, B, or C so many years ago, she says, then you didn’t do it again last week. You’re careless and all you think about is yourself and you’ll never change. Do you wonder, how did we […]
Roger feared rocking the boat with his wife. His behaviors showed that. Maybe one of them apply to you as well. It’s easier to just go along with whatever she wants than risk upsetting her. When I speak up for what I want, it just causes problems. And so, I just say nothing. I avoid what I fear with her instead […]
Fear. It’s a bear in relationship. It can weigh a man down. A lot. Fear of not being enough for her. Fear of letting her down. Fear of not making her happy. I’ve seen all kinds of fears from guys during years of coaching men in their relationships. And the biggest thing I teach guys is this… It’s not her that […]
There’s a secret a lot of guys won’t speak. To speak it goes against the guy code. And it’s this. “I can’t be weak.” And often a man doesn’t know he holds this belief until he hits rock bottom in his relationship. Until he actually feels weak. It’s only then that he realizes how much time and energy he put in to avoid a reality […]
