Ok, I know, another email about the 1 thing on this or the #1 thing on that. We’re inundated by it all the time. And so forgive me for the clickbait title. But this one really is a game-changer. Something big that I’ve consistently seen in 15 years of coaching men in relationship that blows apart marriage after marriage when […]
She talks. I listen. She talks some more. I listen some more. On a good day, her words are about someone or something else and I can help her figure things out. On a bad day, her words are about me and what I don’t do right and what I do wrong. I want to do better but after a […]
Serve, protect, provide. This is the mantra, conscious or not, that drives the behaviors of many married men. Ultimately, most men want to make their wives happy. So in that effort, he’s willing to overlook a lot of challenging behaviors from her. Do you seek to make your wife happy? If so, that’s great. But ask yourself for a moment, […]
Jason’s a good guy. He’s a successful account executive. He loves his wife. And yet his wife says a lot of mean things to him. She’s often irritated with him. She’s shut the door on him emotionally and sexually. In a nutshell, she bullies him. Does your partner bully you? More and more, I’m hearing from men who feel beaten […]
William loved his wife. He wanted the best for her. And yet in the day-to-day of life’s busyness, his attention to her wants and needs slipped. He tried his best. But his efforts to love his wife were often rebuffed. Gifts, kind gestures, doing his best to listen to her struggles. He couldn’t meet her high standards. Over time, he even developed a […]
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Ever heard the expression? If so, then you may understand like my client Mauricio did, that in relationship, the saying applies doubly so. Mauricio would get into an argument with his wife and then for hours afterward, he would beat himself up. He’d spiral into fear about how his wife would deprive him of […]
Recently, I emailed you a video called “The #1 Sex Killer.” It was about how you could be unknowingly killing off your partner’s sexual appetite. I spoke about how to stop that pattern. I also gave a tip on how to do the opposite — to become more attractive to her. But that didn’t sit too well with one guy. […]
I hear a lot from guys I work with, about how their partner complains to him, saying things like.. “You don’t consider me.” “You never remember to ________.” (fill it in) “You’re always on your phone.” Has that ever happened to you? How do you respond? Or do you react? Do you want to learn a samurai trick to bring […]
“It’s been months since we´ve been intimate,” Bob says to me. “I try to go near her and she pulls away. What the hell? This is insane.” “This is my wife, the woman I committed to being monogamous with, and yet she won´t even let me touch her.” Do you struggle when it comes to intimacy with your wife? A […]
Every week I talk to guys with some version of this experience. I’ve been married to my wife for x number of years. I do A and she wants me to do B. I ask her what she wants of me and she says I should just know. After so many years together, I still don’t know what she wants […]
