6 week online training limited to 8 men
Relationship Training Not Therapy
Marriage, long term relationship – they are an enigma for most of us guys today.
Relationship will test you, challenge you, and at times, threaten the core of your very identity.
You may wonder…
- How do I keep her happy?
- How do I get her to stop nitpicking on me?
- How do I get her to hear me?
Creating a fulfilling long term relationship is often the biggest challenge a man can take on.
It will test your ability to provide strength and steadiness for your partner, your kids, and yourself – emotionally, mentally, financially.
In the age of the empowered woman, you can lose the solid ground beneath you and feel like you are at her mercy.
Your partner may be feisty, outspoken, or have high standards for emotional presence and connection for which you are woefully unprepared.
So the question is…
How can you build and maintain clarity, calmness, and yes, confidence where it evades you most, in your primary relationship?
And that’s what we will tackle together in this 6 week training.
We’ll start with confidence – where you lost it and how to regain it – in service to getting the ground back under you and be empowered, strong, and tender with your partner.
To be clear, confidence is not always crushing it or knowing what to do in every situation with your partner.
Confidence comes from knowing when you’re unhinged, losing your shit with her, and not falling prey to that experience as your identity.
Confidence emerges from building resilience with her complaints, withdrawals, and criticisms.
Confidence gets built from engaging a series of small challenges over and over, day in and day out, even in the face of failure.
At the end of the day, confidence is not the end goal, it’s a mechanism.
Confidence is a mechanism in service to cultivating trust, emotional safety, respect, love, passion, and sexuality with your partner.
All the research regarding relationship, trauma, and identity dissolution shows that the key to getting the upper hand in your relationship is becoming more resilient, a trait from which confidence emerges.
Resilient to…
- Engage in hard conversations productively.
- Stand strong in the line of her fire.
- Face your own worst self-judgments.
Unlike Hollywood movies of the heroic James Bond or Ethan Hunt, building and maintaining confidence and resilience are not a solo endeavor.
In real life, those bedrock qualities get built with others. Other men facing the same fire, the same self-judgements as you. Other men saying to themselves, I need to own my challenges and make change in my relationship.
In this training, with a band of brothers (limited to 8 men), you will get the upper hand on:
- Why does her behavior get me so riled up?
- Why do I want to hide out from her at times?
- Why is she so negative with me?
- How come I feel like I’ve lost my identity with her?
- What can I do about it all?
We’ll look at:
- What she does that pisses you off and how you react to make things worse.
- Critical parts of yourself that you exile or suppress to not upset her.
- How your current perspective of your relationship limits your ability to make change.
- Strengthening your masculinity to create the relationship you want.
- Accepting her as she is AND clearly asking for what you want.
Are you ready to take a deep dive into your relationship?
Join Men’s Relationship Coach, Author, & Facilitator Stuart Motola on…
Tuesdays 7:30-9pm ET
Email Stuart for next training dates
This training is a good fit for you if…
- You are ready to move past mere information and step into action to create change in your relationship.
- Your relationship is a top priority.
- You’re done kicking the can down the road and staying stuck with your partner.
- You’re committed to creating the outcome you seek in your relationship.
- You’re willing to put in 2-4 hours per week for 6 weeks on this training.
This is NOT for the guy who wants…
- Quick answers and solutions without putting in any work.
- To hide out blaming his partner for all the challenges in his relationship.
- To avoid taking a deep hard look at himself and how he’s co-created what he’s living.
- To hide out in information without taking risks into action.
- To pretend he knows it all.
What you can expect to get out of this training.
- A more solid sense of your self-worth with your partner.
- A more empowered perspective to create the change you seek with her.
- An awareness of the ways that you trip yourself up.
- An increased motivation to step into action to create change you seek.
- An emboldened resilience and confidence to wisely engage the relational risks ahead of you.
- A band of brothers to support and challenge you.
Have questions about this training?
Book a 15 minute call with Stuart.
Check out these videos to get a sense of my action-oriented approach to relationship.
About Me: I am Stuart Motola, professional men’s relationship coach, facilitator, & author. I was married for 20 years. I went through many of the challenges you’re going through. My challenges and triumphs are spoken to in my book Fixing You Is Killing Me . I have coached men for 15 years and facilitated thousands of men in online and in-person programs. I pride myself on my ability to create a strong connection between men in a safe and vulnerable space. One of the greatest things you can take away by participating in this training is creating one to two friends for life. I offer a deep experience of relational skills that you can put into action quickly with payoffs. If you have any questions about this training, shoot me a quick email.
Not a group guy?
Check out 1:1 coaching.
Course Requirements: With the belief that action, not just information, is what gets the dial moving forward in your relationship, you’ll be asked to do 10-12 minutes of a daily practice several times per week, check in with another man weekly to keep you accountable to your goals, initiate new behaviors with your partner, as well as self-inquiry and reflection. We are looking to make big shifts for you in a short period of time.
Class Format: All classes are experiential and not just informational. You’ll have a chance to speak and participate and get coaching throughout the training in a live format with Stuart.
Can’t make a call? No problem. Listen to the call afterwards. Confidential audio recordings will be provided to you after each call.
Curriculum
Week 1 – Ground Zero Of Your Relationship
What’s your experience of your relationship right now? Do you argue frequently? Struggle with conflict? Walk on eggshells? Fear divorce? A sexless relationship? Or something else?
Laser in on your current relationship experience and its impact on you – be it judgements of your partner or limited perceptions of what’s possible. Uncover how you unconsciously contribute to the challenges you’re experiencing. This could be trying to change her to be what you want or twisting yourself into a pretzel to be what she wants.
Week 2 – What She Does That Pisses You Off
Does she pull away from you? Put you at the bottom of her list? Bring up the same trivial incident from 20 years ago? Or give you that snide look of you’re less than her?
Get the upper hand on what triggers you and learn how when worked with skillfully reveals more about you and how you react, than her and what she does to you. With this perspective, instead of spiraling in self-judgment or blaming your partner for your challenges, you’ll be empowered to take responsibility for your own safety and well-being with them.
Week 3 – Essential Parts Of You That You Suppress To Stay In Relationship
Do you hide out in relationship? Suppress parts of yourself from your partner? Avoid certain conversations that you fear will set her off? Not act when you want physical or emotional intimacy for fear of rejection? Maybe you don’t even ask to go to the gym after work because you know you’ll get an earful.
When you suppress essential parts of yourself, you build up resentments, often unconsciously. You fray the fabric of trust in your relationship because you don’t trust that you can be you with her. And in return, she doesn’t trust you because she doesn’t even fully know who you are. Unlock the exiled parts of you, so you can stop hiding out and be more of your authentic self with your partner.
Week 4 – How To Not Lose It With Her (Or Emotionally Check Out)
Do you lose it every now and then with her? You try to be good to her and she just doesn’t see it? Or maybe you check out and just accept the status quo to avoid conflict ?
Learn to keep your cool under fire when you’re feeling the fear of making things worse. Understand how to de-escalate and become that calm, steady force of strength that she wants you to be. And get to a place where you can build confidence to handle just about any situation she throws at you.
Week 5 – Strengthen Your Confidence With Your Partner
Do you feel like nothing will ever change with your partner? As if the hum-drum status quo is the best you’ll get? Or you’re invisible? Or even detestable to her? Do you feel helpless to do anything about it?
Uncover the vitality and confidence that’s died in you during the days and years of your marriage or relationship. Look at how you’ve outsourced that vitality, from within yourself, to your partner and how to reclaim it to to begin to bring a new competency into your relationship.
Week 6 – Ask For What You Want Without Stepping On A Landmine
Do you clam up with your partner? Don’t speak your truth for fear of blowback from her? Don’t say what you want?
Learn the motivating power of gaining clarity on your wants and needs in relationship to step back into your self-worth as a relational partner. Discover how knowing what you want and need with your partner is a super-power all its own that will help to speak up with confidence and resilience even in the face of not getting what you want at times.
Have questions about this training?
Book a 15 minute call with Stuart.
Enrollment Form
To enroll in “A Confident Man’s Path To Relationship” training, please fill out the form below, after which you’ll be taken to a payment page. All information is confidential.
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