This is firsthand. I’ve been there.

The brutal nature of feeling like the one person – your wife or partner – to whom you’ve limited your sexuality has closed the door on that part of your life.

She’s no longer interested in sex. She says she can’t be physically intimate if she doesn’t first feel emotionally connected. Or she just doesn’t want you.

The list goes on. She has dryness issues. She has trauma around sex. She has health issues and doesn’t feel comfortable in her body.

Of course, some of these reasons are serious and not to be taken lightly. But it can be frustrating as hell if she’s not actively trying to do anything about it.

Do you feel trapped in a sexless relationship?

Of course, women experience a lack of sex with their partner as well. But from working with men for over 15 years, and being a dude who experienced it, I know the harshness on the man-side of this equation.

While we guys are changing and “evolving,” 95+% of us will never evolve past our natural need for physical intimacy. And those who try are typically self-emasculating.

Sex is a natural love language for us dudes. And that alone doesn’t mean we’re perpetrators or players.

When a man’s woman receives him sexually, he is at the mountain top of his relationship. He feels deeply loved, accepted, and respected.

Of course, dudes want other things. But sex is key for most men to experience their deepest and most fulfilling connection to the feminine.

And when that door shuts, a guy can easily start to think, how the hell can I continue like this?

This is the voice of a man in a sexless marriage.

Are you in a sexless marriage?

In response, a guy typically does one of two things. The first is to try to woo her, win her over again, please her, make her happy, anything, so she’ll open up to him sexually again.

And if that doesn’t work, as she often sees through his ploy, he begins to withdraw and retreat. He turns to porn, pot, alcohol, an affair, anything to numb the painful reality he’s living in.

He might even shut down to her and say to himself, screw it, she’s gonna close herself off, I’ll show her and close her off as well.

On both sides of these responses is a guy who feels trapped and is at a loss about what to do about a super-desperate situation.

Do you struggle to know what to do about a lack of sex in your relationship?

Beyond making her happy to get sex or withdrawing completely, there are a few things you can do.

And the first one is to begin to reclaim your sexuality.

Get it out of your head that she owns the sexual part of you. You own that part of you.

Engage your sexuality so that you’re not at your wife’s mercy, to put you in a better position to influence her to open up to you again.

In the video below, I talk about 3 powerful ways to not be at her mercy and help her open up again.

Brother, you’ve got a lot more power than you realize. In moments of a sexless relationship, it may not feel like that. And that’s especially true when the lower part of you has you completely jacked up.

But when you begin to learn to work with that part of you, you can do this.

Approach your partner in a way that doesn’t have her feeling like you’re just trying to get her into the sack.

Because let’s face it, nobody likes to be manipulated by someone else’s agenda. And that’s true for her, and for you.

What if instead, she could experience closeness with you in a way that has her wanting to jump into bed with you?

Imagine if you could create a relationship where sex is enjoyable for both of you. Where you’re both open and excited to be together.

I’m not gonna B.S. you. It takes some work. But nothing important in life happens without some work.

Are you ready to create the loving, sexually fulfilling relationship you seek?

If so, let’s have a quick chat. A guaranteed, powerful conversation to help you reclaim your sexuality and your relationship.

And to be clear, talking means no sales job, just an honest conversation between two guys keeping it real.

I’d be honored to hear from you. Even the first small step to shoot me a quick email is a huge act of courage.

And if you’re more of a group guy, consider checking out the Men’s Relationship School where we are talking about sex, marriage, manhood, and more.

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