Like many men I coach, Austin was struggling in his relationship. He’d lost his mojo, his way, his passion with his wife.

After waking up next to her daily for 12 years, he said, “I feel like I’m in a cage. The thrill is gone. Is this really the rest of my life?”

“What do you  want? What do you choose?” I said.

“Choose? I don’t choose anything. I get through my days,” he said.

Austin lacked something in his relationship. Something within. A clarity. A knowing. A mission. So I asked him…
 
What is your mission with your partner?

Mission. Objective. These are words we expect to hear in the board room or on the military field. They are rarely spoken of in the context of relationship.

In fact, in relationship, mission and objective are the last words we typically hear.

And yet without a clear mission in his relationship, a man stumbles through a nebulous minefield of therapy, personal growth, and inaction.

“It’s good info. But I don’t know WTF to do with it,” my client Kevin said about therapy. “Typically, I just put it in a box, stick under my bed, and forget about it.”

What he was saying was, I never knew my mission.

Do you know your mission in your relationship?

A clear mission in relationship is brings a man clarity and direction with his partner. It makes the nebulous precise and clear.

“Mission?” Austin said, after a pause. “I don’t know what you mean.”

“Mission, objective, goal. What is your mission with your wife?”
“To raise the kids, have a stable happy home, and enjoy one another.”

“Great. Are you on mission?”

A confused look in his eyes said he was not.

We spoke more about mission in relationship. About how the male inclination for clear directives is often lacking in relationship. And how it taps into our natural desire as men to fix things.

What do you need to fix your relationship?
 
Of course, your relationship is not a mere washing machine. It’s not just a two hour fix-it job. It takes time.

But with a clear mission and consistent accountability, Austin stayed on track to create what he wanted with his partner.

What is your mission with your partner?

What’s your action plan when things have flatlined?

Discover how to achieve your mission in your relationship with this short video below.