Richard, a sales executive, speaks to me across the screen from New York. He’s exasperated. “She’s always freaking out. I’m tired of it. She’s fucking crazy.” Do you ever think your wife is crazy? Richard did. “I just want things to be OK, fluid. Every little thing becomes a big deal with her. Yesterday she freaked on me because I […]
Here’s a story about a guy, a CEO, who struggled to go after what he wanted with his wife. All that changed with one simple question, which I’ll offer to you momentarily. Up front, people tend to think CEO’s have it made. They’ve achieved success. They’ve made their money. But the reality is they’re humans, just like you and me. […]
Your blind spot. The place that you can’t see between your rearview and sideview mirror. You check it when you can. But every once in a while, you get lazy. You go to make that lane change, without checking your blind spot… And then BAM! You smash into something. And you realize, it was that damn blind spot. What the […]
Ever been in a fight with your wife and thought, Jeez, we’ve been having the same argument for 15 years? You didn’t do A, B, or C so many years ago, she says, then you didn’t do it again last week. You’re careless and all you think about is yourself and you’ll never change. Do you wonder, how did we […]
Here’s a crazy phenomenon I see with many married men. Are you this guy? A man walks into his kitchen to get a snack after working in his office. His wife walks into the kitchen. And bam, out of nowhere, she starts coming at him. “Hey,” she says, “you said you’d take care of the appointment for the kids. I never got […]
Dave’s wife left him. Out of the blue. It was sudden. One day he came back from his law office and his wife and kids were gone. The writing had been on the wall. But he was too busy working to see it. As a high powered attorney, my client Dave was not used to being at the mercy of […]
I’ve heard guys say that trying to improve your marriage can feel like an uphill climb. You often take two steps forward and one step back. The effort burns. Each step feels like a slog. You wonder, what’s it gonna take? Does being happy in your relationship feel like an uphill climb? Well, that’s how it works when you repeat the […]
An aerospace engineer rocks it all day at work. But when he comes home, his wife makes it clear that he is not rocking it with her Before he even lays down his shoulder bag, she says, “Did you take care of the credit card issue?” F*#k, I spaced. What do I tell her? She sees the look in his […]
Roberto was 12 years married when we began working together. He had all the behaviors of many married men I coach. He was walking on eggshells around his wife. He lived in fear of stepping on a landmine with her. And he tried to avoid what he feared – arguments, upsets, and divorce. “It all started about seven years ago […]
Fear. It’s a bear in relationship. It can weigh a man down. A lot. Fear of not being enough for her. Fear of letting her down. Fear of not making her happy. I’ve seen all kinds of fears from guys during years of coaching men in their relationships. And the biggest thing I teach guys is this… It’s not her that […]
