“She has no idea how hard I work.” Robert, a seven-figure tech entrepreneur, shakes his head. “Does she think I slave away all day just for me? “I want all the wonderful things that she wants. In fact, I love providing for her. But damn if…” He pauses, thinks. “Ok, fine, she’s made it clear, I need to show up […]
We’ve been together 7 years, a man says. We’ve been together 12 years, says another. We’ve been together 22 years, says a third guy. What do all these guys have in common? All of them flatlined in their marriages. They all felt dead inside with their partner. They struggled with passion in their marriages. Passion. It often fades in a […]
I remember 8 years ago, I first started asking the question. It was in my kitchen where I was washing the dishes in my suburban house in Boulder, CO. Feeling quite desperate and overwhelmed with everything in my life – from running my business, helping run a household, raising a son, and all the other stuff that comes with it. […]
The internet is flooded with tactics for men on how to fix their marriage. Yeah, that’s right fix it. Guys are hungry for a fix. And so they hear things like… Be the alpha male and take charge of things. Don’t let her neuroses rock your calm masculinity. Get her to do what you want with your clarity. The problem […]
“She does it all the time. Makes me feel bad for what I didn’t do or how I don’t show up.” Joel says these words about his wife. He’s an eight-figure entrepreneur who doesn’t have these problems at work. The problem is that at home Joel falls prey to his wife’s tactics. He justifies it, wanting to be a better […]
Rob, an Executive VP and client, wants more kindness from his wife. Not even sex or connection just kindness. It seems like a low bar and the least he can expect from his wife of 15 years. Instead, he gets degradation, denigration, and verbal abuse. Do you experience verbal abuse from your wife? Rob struggled to identify it as verbal […]
You commit to one woman. She’s the one you will be with. She’s the one woman with whom you will have sex. You’ve committed to her in marriage or monogamy. And then, the door closes. Over time during your relationship, she closes the door behind the sex life you once shared. Has your partner closed the door on your sex […]
“She shuts down on me,” my client Rick says to me. He’s not used to that. In his work as a tech CEO, he consistently has the attention and focus of others. He’s used to his words being heard and people being open to him. “Sometimes I can’t figure out what I did. Why’s she like that?” Does your wife […]
Marriage. Relationship. Coupledom. Commitment to one partner. That person you can rely on forever. Sounds beautiful upfront. And yet, if you’ve been in a long-term marriage or relationship, it’s not that simple. That one person is also the one who will trigger the sh*t out of you, causing you to feel trapped at times; in fact, that’s their job. The […]
Every month, a man struggling in his marriage emails me with a simple question. How can I save my marriage? Maybe you’re asking yourself this question. Or you’re avoiding it. Or you’re not even sure if your marriage is worth saving. You might be saying things like… “She’s just not open to me.” “She doesn’t trust me.” “I know I […]
