Steve gets feedback from his wife – well, more like criticism. “‘You don’t contribute to the family. You’re not present for me. You’re on your phone too much,’ she says to me.” Steve sighs. Is your wife tough on you? A lot of guys hear these words, or similar, from their wife. Good guys, just like you and me. Men who […]
Tom looks across the dinner table at his wife of twenty years. He’s eating the same breaded chicken and mashed potatoes that he’s eaten once a week for the last god knows how many years. Some words are exchanged. His wife does most of the talking. Tom notices how much his wife likes to talk. And how little he cares about what she has to […]
My wife is sexually shut down; I hear these words often from men. After many years in marriage, other priorities have taken over. Sex is last on her list. And that’s frustrating as hell. Are you asking yourself… Why won’t my wife have sex with me? You may know the reasons. She’s exhausted with work, the kids, and home. But […]
Remember when you first fell in love? The fireworks. Spark. Excitement. Sex. Chemistry. Compatibility. That desire to be together all the time. The urge to merge. The yearning to lose yourself in one another. A beautiful sense of oneness. The ultimate love. No secrets, no boundaries, no struggles. You let her in fully. She let you in fully. You were […]
Like many men I coach, Austin was struggling in his relationship. He’d lost his mojo, his way, his passion with his wife. After waking up next to her daily for 12 years, he said, “I feel like I’m in a cage. The thrill is gone. Is this really the rest of my life?” “What do you want? What do you […]
Relationship is a confusing minefield for many men. That was once true for me during a 20 year marriage. She says one thing one day and then something else another day. From I don’t know what she really wants to she’s nuts or I just want peace, a lot of men resign themselves to confusion and the status quo. Yet, underneath is a feeling that […]
If 2021 were a guy in the bedroom, there’d be a lot of performance anxiety. His partner might say, “You better deliver ‘cause 2020’s been a shit show.” The pressure’s on for 2021 to deliver. Are you hoping for anything different in 2021 in your relationship? If so, what? “I just want some space!” many men are saying. After […]
“Are you crazy? Ask her for sex?” my client Tom asked me. “She’ll freak out on me.” I had just encouraged Tom to ask his wife for what he wanted from her. In his own words, that was sex. Simple enough. “How is avoiding it serving you?” I said to him. He thought about it. Like many men I coach, […]
Fear. It’s a bear in relationship. It can weigh a man down. A lot. Fear of not being enough for her. Fear of letting her down. Fear of not making her happy. I’ve seen all kinds of fears from guys during years of coaching men in their relationships. And the biggest thing I teach guys is this… It’s not her that […]
