Marriage – years in, we often wonder, how did I get here? Who is this person I married? If we go back, we remember. In the beginning, there was attraction. Great conversation. Physical intimacy. And a desire to be together a lot. Then came the let’s commit phase. The desire to be monogamous. To spend even more time together. And […]
Anger – it’s common for good guys like us to suppress it. We don’t want to be that dominator or aggressive asshole. But still we’re human. So inevitably anger might bubble up now and then. Maybe anger comes up when your wife says that you’re checked out, or you’re not consistent with your words, or you’re just not enough for […]
“You don’t do this right. You don’t do that right. You’re always working!” My client Jack raises his hands like claws at his skull. The complaints come at him constantly. It feels like an endless barrage. He works full time as the CEO of a successful company. And he’s still not doing enough. Is your wife always complaining? Jack’s wife […]
When I first got married, I was very much in love with my wife. I dreamed of our future. Wondered what our kids would look like. Thought about the life we’d create together. I sought a home in my prior wife at the time. A psychological, emotional, and sexual home. A place I could rest and relax and not deal […]
“My wife gets easily worked up about stuff,” says Robert, a software entrepreneur in his late forties. “And I feel like I have to take it on. I’m that guy, you know, who fixes it. “And to be honest, I’m tired of it. It seems like it never stops. Whether it’s about the kids, her work, my behavior. She’s freaking […]
John was at the ledge. He’d been trapped in a “one down” dynamic with his wife for years. Nothing he could say or do was ever good enough for her. She seemed totally shut down to him. He missed the woman he first met, who had opened to him like a lotus flower. He was confused as to what to […]
Sex. It’s often a big lack in a man’s life. Especially if he’s been married for many years. Is sex missing in your relationship? You may have reached a point where you’ve thrown in the towel on your sex life. It may not even be something you think much about anymore with your partner. Well, ok, you think about it. […]
“I’m gonna die here,” I thought, staring at the picture-perfect suburban yard. I washed dinner dishes at the sink in our family dream home, as I did most nights, trying to be a good guy, to support my wife who had chronic illness. I was that guy. Do you prioritize your wife’s well-being over your own happiness? I did. And […]
Imagine. Your marriage is on the rocks. You experience your wife as a bully or maybe she’s withdrawn and unwilling to work on your marriage. She puts you at the bottom of her list. Or maybe she’s sexually closed. You’ve hit rock bottom. You can’t go on like this. Think about your options. Ask yourself… Can I save my marriage? […]
This was me once. It might be you. Your wife treats you like a second-class citizen. She belittles you. She acts as if you have little to offer her or your family. Does your wife ever belittle you? In response, you try to show up as your best. You’re a good guy who wants to contribute. And yet your efforts […]
