I remember 8 years ago, I first started asking the question. It was in my kitchen where I was washing the dishes in my suburban house in Boulder, CO. Feeling quite desperate and overwhelmed with everything in my life – from running my business, helping run a household, raising a son, and all the other stuff that comes with it. […]
Ten years ago, I was 44 years old, married 17 years, with a 15-year-old son. I’d been through many death and life cycles in my marriage. I was about to go through another one. My wife and I were in the kitchen, talking about what we should get my son for Christmas. She asked for my opinion. I brought my […]
Dave’s head is spinning. His wife just told him that she doesn’t feel like he’s on her team. “Baby,” he says, “I work 10 hours a day, I do everything I can for us to have a good life.” “Yes, that’s fine,” she says. “But I don’t feel like you love me.” “What did I do wrong?” He asks her. […]
Philip, a high-earning financial consultant, taps his fingers on the small table next to him. I wonder how long he’ll last in this session. His wife Tamara complains about how he is checked out. How he can’t even be with his family for 10 minutes without being on his phone. Mincing no words, she says, “I feel like I’m in […]
Healthy boundaries. Maybe you’ve heard of them. Maybe you’ve even heard that they are good for your marriage or relationship. And yet maybe you’re still trying to figure out how the heck to implement them. If that’s you, you won’t want to miss this podcast in which I speak in detail about: How to deal with the childish part of […]
Eight years ago, I was 44 years old, married 17 years, with a 15-year-old son. I’d been through many death and life cycles in my marriage. I was about to go through another one. My wife and I were in the kitchen, talking about what we should get my son for Christmas. She asked for my opinion. I brought my […]
Shhh. I have a secret. It’s something nobody tells you about marriage. In fact, it’s something you should’ve known way before you even got married. It’s precisely because you don’t know this one thing that you may be in a marriage that drains you more than fulfills you. And it can put you in a position where you feel like […]
“You don’t do this right. You don’t do that right. You’re always working!” My client Jack raises his hands like claws at his skull. The complaints come at him constantly. It feels like an endless barrage. He works full time as the CEO of a successful company. And he’s still not doing enough. Is your wife always complaining? Jack’s wife […]
When I first got married, I was very much in love with my wife. I dreamed of our future. Wondered what our kids would look like. Thought about the life we’d create together. I sought a home in my prior wife at the time. A psychological, emotional, and sexual home. A place I could rest and relax and not deal […]
Your marriage is like a ship. You and your wife are the captains. It is your responsibility to co-pilot the ship together. And yet after years together, both of you let go of the wheel. Have you captained the ship of your marriage? If not, in time the ship hits a channel of rocks. And yes, that’s why we say, […]
