Tag: couples therapy

The Feminine In The Masculine

“The feminine in a man?” A big burly man says. His massive biceps dwarf his muscle shirt, as he lifts at the gym. “Ha, you got to be kidding me. Next thing you know, you’ll be asking me to be join the knitting club.” “That manly man ain’t so manly,” another man says, “if he’s afraid of his heart.” Ok, […]

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Be Right or Be Loved?

There’s one question that disarms couples in a moment of conflict. Prefer to watch me present live? The Conflict  John and Susan zoom in to me on video chat from South Carolina. John’s a high level executive with a steel company. And while he spends a lot of time at work, he’s aging and well aware that his home life […]

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Dividing Against Yourself Sucks

Today, a story about the greatest suffering – forgetting who we are. Prefer to watch me present live? Check out the YouTube video now. The Client Tim comes into my office. He is torn up inside. He has been married for many years. He’s not shy about sharing how much he loves his wife and children. But… something’s not right. […]

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When Your Partner’s Not The Problem, Maybe You Are

It was classic one finger pointing at my partner, three pointing back at me. It happened like this… Prefer to watch me present live? Check out it out. The Problem Man, I was pissed off. For the second time in a week, she changed plans on me. She got out of her appointment. Then she decided she could not meet me, […]

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One Question Struggling Couples Never Ask Themselves

Mike had it all. Several homes, a boat, a healthy family. What we perceive as success. But in his marriage, that was not the case. He had been with his wife for 17 years. He struggled to talk to her. Nothing was ever enough. He could never get it right. And he took it to heart. “How is it I’m […]

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When I Feared Being A Bad Man

That night, all those years ago, I sat on the dream bed in the dream house, totally confused. I had no idea that I was being called to an initiation. Yet, something mysterious tugged at me, challenging me to move away from my marriage, and be willing to lose everything as I knew it. But I was frozen. Clearly, my […]

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Ladies, Close Your Legs (If You Have To) But Keep Your Heart Open

She lies on the bed. Her face glows. She is in her most sensual lace undies and bra. He stands at the foot of the bed, his shirt off. His excitement to enter her is uncontainable. Her desire to receive him is palpable. She reaches out to him with her arms, saying, “Come to me.” All of her is open […]

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Guys, Her Vagina Won’t Make You Whole

WARNING: Explicit sexual content. Every guy has felt it. Yes, he has felt it. I have felt it. He is inside of her. He feels ecstasy. He feels euphoria. He feels… complete… eternal… immortal He loves her more than ever. “Ooh baby, you’re so amazing. I love you. I love you. I love you!’ He has gone back to his […]

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Men, Tears, & Strength

A man cries. Something opens up in him. He can’t hold in his pain anymore. His heart hurts. His wife has left him. Or he has left her. Either way, he grieves. Men cry. I see this often in my work. Contrary to common belief, they are strong men. Very strong. Strong enough to… Access their sadness. Trust others to […]

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2 Characters Who Keep You Small

Withholds — it’s not a word often spoken between couples. And yet withholds are everywhere in relationship. Maybe you don’t speak a hard truth to your partner. Or maybe you don’t ask for what you need. Or maybe you don’t put the work you want to into your primary relationship (i.e. look at yourself, repair conflict, etc) These are withholds — places where you keep […]

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