Are you the guy who feels horrible when your partner says – “you’re just not open” or “you’re so checked out”? If you’re anything like me, you really take it to heart. You consider how you can show up better. The good news is you care. The bad news is you may forget to look at her, as well. Until you […]
“I know, I know, I’m supposed to love myself,” a client says to me. “Find more self-love and self-trust. But in truth, I just want more than anything to find deep connection with a partner. All of me aches for it.” Can you relate? I hear this from some of my male clients. Felix pauses. He looks me over. His […]
Losing love hurts. It can be an ache. A deep black hole, an emptiness, a burn. Love is something we seek and something we can project onto anyone. A passerby on the street or a colleague at work. While the words may not be exact, we may feel it as – If only she/he were in my life, I’d be […]
The tropical jungle, a mountain of green comes at me at 60 kilometers per hour. I hold the throttle firm on my scooter as I round the bend of a rural highway in Koh Lanta, Thailand. A woman concealed in black Muslim robes rippling in the wind behind her, speeds towards me on a motorcycle like a dark angel of […]
Palms pressed together, finger tips at his chin, a businessman in a blue suit bows on his knees at the bust of 13th century General Tran Hung Dao. Ngoc Son Temple on Jade Island in Hoan Kiem Lake, a mere 300 steps over the iconic Rising Sun bridge, provides a welcome respite from the bustling streets of Hanoi. Fruit, chung cake […]
A few days ago, a Vietnamese woman proposed to me. I was in a custom clothing shop in Hoi An, where it is common for foreigners to have custom suits made. My 19-year old son was getting fit for something. We have been travelling in Vietnam. As I waited for him, Mai, who worked in the shop sat down next […]
He had a beautiful night with his partner. They made love, connected. They slept, body against body. It was hard to leave her side. That morning, at work, the desire to call her was strong. To text her, to stay connected. He still felt her – touch, scent, and sensation. And it felt… so good. The ecstasy of connection was […]
This past Sunday, I got stuck in a cabin up in Montana in a blizzard, trying to Lyft my way out to no avail. Stranded, no car, eventually I got out, and even had some fun on the way. The experience while challenging gave me inspiration for what I speak to in the New Year, since I don’t bother with […]
Christmas. How will you spend it this year? Will you wake up, greeted by family? Or maybe you’ll be alone? Maybe you don’t even celebrate it. Regardless, it’s a time of year when we often take stock of our relationships. With a spouse or partner, we may become aware of how we are in connection or not. How things have […]
Front of mind and back of mind. These are the two places where we typically hold a committed partner when love is unrequited or relationship challenges arise. In front, is when we are in fear… Of losing a partner. Of it being over. Of the threat of relationship ending or divorce. Monkey mind and scared heart run the scripts – What […]
