“I want her to be happy. But man, she has no idea the value of a dollar. She blows ten bucks on gourmet cookies and doesn’t even eat them,” my client Todd said. Sounds like the words of a guy who is financially stressed. Anyone who’s been married a while can tell you that arguments about money and marriage go […]
“You don’t do this right. You don’t do that right. You’re always working!” My client Jack raises his hands like claws at his skull. The complaints come at him constantly. It feels like an endless barrage. He works full time as the CEO of a successful company. And he’s still not doing enough. Is your wife always complaining? Jack’s wife […]
It’s hard for a man to pinpoint. That exact moment when things flatlined in his relationship. Especially after so many years together. My client Michael wonders. When did it happen? He doesn’t know. And yet undeniably, there’s something missing in his relationship. A fire. A passion. An excitement. A desire for one another. Sex. He hungers for it. Do you feel something missing in […]
“She’s always coming at me with a charge. It’s like I have to take on her anger just to stay married to her.” James pauses and looks away for a moment. “Half of the time I’m not even sure what she’s angry about.” He throws his hands up in frustration. “The other day, she barked at me because I didn’t secure […]
Guy forgets things at times. Things his wife asks of him. Recently, he forgot to get lettuce at the supermarket. The month prior, he didn’t call Comcast to get the internet fixed. And this past winter, he spaced on Valentine’s Day. “You’re unreliable,” his wife said to him. “I can’t trust you.” OUCH! Painful words for a man to hear. Guy didn’t […]
Men often come to me exasperated. They’re working hard at their job, helping out at home, and with their kids. And then they hear their partner say, “I don’t feel like you’re on my team.” It often leaves a guy feeling blindsided. What? Not on your team? I’m busting my ass for you. Have you ever been told that you’re not on […]
A guy wants sex. His wife doesn’t. He asks himself, “What’s the point of being married if I can’t have sex with my own wife? Will it be like this forever?” He feels trapped. Have you ever felt trapped like this in a sexless relationship? I have. I even went to a sex addiction therapist at one point in my […]
A guy complains that his wife never wants to have sex. He’s a good guy who loves his wife a lot. He strives to be kind, considerate, and loving. Is he doing something wrong? “She’s just shut down. It’s hard to be with a woman who doesn’t like sex,” he says. I relate. Years ago, in my marriage, I thought my […]
“BOOM! One day she asked me for a divorce,” John says to me. He’s absolutely blindsided, as if it came out of nowhere. But yet it didn’t. He and his wife rarely had sex. They were more like roommates than a married couple. And to deal or not deal, he worked a lot. Are you asleep at the steering wheel […]
Charles shoots me a quick email. Eventually, we talk. He says something I hear from a lot of guys. “I can never be enough for her. I do 9 out of the 10 things she asks me to do. And then I get railed on for not doing the 10th thing.” Can you relate to not being enough for your partner? I’ve […]
