Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Ever heard the expression? If so, then you may understand like my client Mauricio did, that in relationship, the saying applies doubly so. Mauricio would get into an argument with his wife and then for hours afterward, he would beat himself up. He’d spiral into fear about how his wife would deprive him of […]
My wife said A. I said B. We got into a fight. I got angry. I said some things I wasn’t proud of. We went to sleep that night on opposite sides of the bed. The next morning, I felt like a scared kid, afraid of even saying hello to her. Would she bark at me, ignore me, or something […]
Fear. An emotion that goes underground for most men at a young age. It happened to me when I was just 5 years old. It was then that I first learned fear wasn’t okay for a boy. I remember my older brother, who was eight at the time, said to me, “What are you afraid of, you little baby? Little […]
Sex and marriage. They can feel like oil and water. Two separate entities skimming the surface of one another. I hear men often say things like… Sex is the last thing on my wife’s mind. She’s physically shut down. She’s just so busy. I’m at the bottom of her list. Hey man, I know this great massage parlor. A lack […]
“My wife always has to be right.” “She doesn’t respect my opinion.” “My wife always gets the last word in.” These are the exact words I heard from multiple men in the last few months. If you can relate to any of these statements, it’s likely you’re with a strong-spoken woman. Do you feel as if your wife has to […]
Men. Many of us often cruise along in our marriage. As long as we’re having sex occasionally and the house isn’t on fire, we’re fine with how things are. We don’t think much more about our marriage. Then there’s another group of guys in the marital battle zone. No sex. The house is on fire. And in response, they try […]
Ben was a successful account executive in his company. A fierce competitor. He pushed hard to go after what he wanted. He was a great connector when it came to people. At work, he was confident and capable. He loved what he did. Yet at home, it was a totally different story. At home, he lived in fear. Fear that […]
Healthy boundaries. Maybe you’ve heard of them. Maybe you’ve even heard that they are good for your marriage or relationship. And yet maybe you’re still trying to figure out how the heck to implement them. If that’s you, you won’t want to miss this podcast in which I speak in detail about: How to deal with the childish part of […]
Recently, I emailed you a video called “The #1 Sex Killer.” It was about how you could be unknowingly killing off your partner’s sexual appetite. I spoke about how to stop that pattern. I also gave a tip on how to do the opposite — to become more attractive to her. But that didn’t sit too well with one guy. […]
I hear a lot from guys I work with, about how their partner complains to him, saying things like.. “You don’t consider me.” “You never remember to ________.” (fill it in) “You’re always on your phone.” Has that ever happened to you? How do you respond? Or do you react? Do you want to learn a samurai trick to bring […]
