Jim was a high-powered business guy. He had a talent for making big deals happen. He was a rock star at work but man, did he get his boat rocked when it came to his marriage. Do you experience success at work but failure in your marriage? For my client Jim, that was a clear yes. At work, he had […]
Fear. An emotion that goes underground for most men at a young age. It happened to me when I was just 5 years old. It was then that I first learned fear wasn’t okay for a boy. I remember my older brother, who was eight at the time, said to me, “What are you afraid of, you little baby? Little […]
Men. Many of us often cruise along in our marriage. As long as we’re having sex occasionally and the house isn’t on fire, we’re fine with how things are. We don’t think much more about our marriage. Then there’s another group of guys in the marital battle zone. No sex. The house is on fire. And in response, they try […]
Healthy boundaries. Maybe you’ve heard of them. Maybe you’ve even heard that they are good for your marriage or relationship. And yet maybe you’re still trying to figure out how the heck to implement them. If that’s you, you won’t want to miss this podcast in which I speak in detail about: How to deal with the childish part of […]
“This being human is a guest house” is the first line from a Rumi poem. The line means things happen in life and we get to decide if we flow with them or resist. It speaks to when you feel like things are happening TO you instead of FOR you. In your marriage, that might be the same old conflict […]
Shhh. I have a secret. It’s something nobody tells you about marriage. In fact, it’s something you should’ve known way before you even got married. It’s precisely because you don’t know this one thing that you may be in a marriage that drains you more than fulfills you. And it can put you in a position where you feel like […]
Us guys. We’re notorious for taking poor care of ourselves. Did you know that for most guys, their wives are more likely to make the annual physical appointment to the doctor than they are? Why is that? Well, it’s part of being a man. You’re taught from a young age to suck it up and deal. To be tough. And […]
Anger – it’s common for good guys like us to suppress it. We don’t want to be that dominator or aggressive asshole. But still we’re human. So inevitably anger might bubble up now and then. Maybe anger comes up when your wife says that you’re checked out, or you’re not consistent with your words, or you’re just not enough for […]
“You don’t do this right. You don’t do that right. You’re always working!” My client Jack raises his hands like claws at his skull. The complaints come at him constantly. It feels like an endless barrage. He works full time as the CEO of a successful company. And he’s still not doing enough. Is your wife always complaining? Jack’s wife […]
When I first got married, I was very much in love with my wife. I dreamed of our future. Wondered what our kids would look like. Thought about the life we’d create together. I sought a home in my prior wife at the time. A psychological, emotional, and sexual home. A place I could rest and relax and not deal […]
