“You don’t do this right. You don’t do that right. You’re always working!” My client Jack raises his hands like claws at his skull. The complaints come at him constantly. It feels like an endless barrage. He works full time as the CEO of a successful company. And he’s still not doing enough. Is your wife always complaining? Jack’s wife […]
When I first got married, I was very much in love with my wife. I dreamed of our future. Wondered what our kids would look like. Thought about the life we’d create together. I sought a home in my prior wife at the time. A psychological, emotional, and sexual home. A place I could rest and relax and not deal […]
Your marriage is like a ship. You and your wife are the captains. It is your responsibility to co-pilot the ship together. And yet after years together, both of you let go of the wheel. Have you captained the ship of your marriage? If not, in time the ship hits a channel of rocks. And yes, that’s why we say, […]
This was me once. It might be you. Your wife treats you like a second-class citizen. She belittles you. She acts as if you have little to offer her or your family. Does your wife ever belittle you? In response, you try to show up as your best. You’re a good guy who wants to contribute. And yet your efforts […]
When a man’s marriage tanks, he asks himself questions like… Can I continue to live like this? How can things change? What can I do about it? And in this place, your options can feel limited. You can easily feel trapped and resigned. Are you living out a life sentence in your marriage? If you’ve ever felt this way, it’s […]
“I love my wife. We have a great life. I want to make things work. “But…,” Ryan pauses and considers if he will reveal his secret. I nod my head, giving him the cue that it’s ok to speak. “I’m miserable,” he says, conflicted inside. Do you feel conflicted about the current state of your marriage? A part of Ryan […]
Relationship is a confusing minefield for many men. That was once true for me during a 20 year marriage. She says one thing one day and then something else another day. From I don’t know what she really wants to she’s nuts or I just want peace, a lot of men resign themselves to confusion and the status quo. Yet, underneath is a feeling that […]
After years of marriage, I see a lot of men constantly answering to their wife. Her questions come daily. Did you call the doctor? Did you get the Comcast guy scheduled? Did you take out the garbage? Did you remember the kids have a half day on Tuesday? It reminds a man of what it was like to be a […]
Men often come to me exasperated. They’re working hard at their job, helping out at home, and with their kids. And then they hear their partner say, “I don’t feel like you’re on my team.” It often leaves a guy feeling blindsided. What? Not on your team? I’m busting my ass for you. Have you ever been told that you’re not on […]
“Too bad if you don’t like who I am!” a guy says. He walks out on his wife, thinking, F*#k her, I don’t need this shit anymore. Have you ever been pissed & walked out on your partner? I have. It feels like shit, especially when it happens often. And afterwards, maybe you’re thinking, Do I really have to go back home […]
