Sounds horrible. Why would a woman hate you for being nice? Because you’re not just being nice. You’re also being dishonest. “He’s so good to me,” she says. “And yet, something is off.” What she’s not saying is, “There’s something I don’t trust in him.” What is it, that something? Rewind. It all started as a little boy. You’re three years […]
Guys, have you ever found yourself saying, “I can’t make her happy”? Men say this all the time. Married men. Single men. Smart men. Not so smart men. “I feel like I’m always trying with her. But I just can’t get it right.” Where’d we get the idea, as guys, that we have to make her happy? Why do we […]
Hell no. Don’t listen. Hell yeah. You better listen. Which is it? We’ll get there but first, what happens inside of you when she says, “I need to talk”? For many men, it’s, Uh, oh, I’m in trouble, again? What did I do this time? How’s that possible? You never get it right? I often wondered during 20 years of […]
Are you the guy who feels horrible when your partner says – “you’re just not open” or “you’re so checked out”? If you’re anything like me, you really take it to heart. You consider how you can show up better. The good news is you care. The bad news is you may forget to look at her, as well. Until you […]
Losing love hurts. It can be an ache. A deep black hole, an emptiness, a burn. Love is something we seek and something we can project onto anyone. A passerby on the street or a colleague at work. While the words may not be exact, we may feel it as – If only she/he were in my life, I’d be […]
Palms pressed together, finger tips at his chin, a businessman in a blue suit bows on his knees at the bust of 13th century General Tran Hung Dao. Ngoc Son Temple on Jade Island in Hoan Kiem Lake, a mere 300 steps over the iconic Rising Sun bridge, provides a welcome respite from the bustling streets of Hanoi. Fruit, chung cake […]
A few days ago, a Vietnamese woman proposed to me. I was in a custom clothing shop in Hoi An, where it is common for foreigners to have custom suits made. My 19-year old son was getting fit for something. We have been travelling in Vietnam. As I waited for him, Mai, who worked in the shop sat down next […]
He had a beautiful night with his partner. They made love, connected. They slept, body against body. It was hard to leave her side. That morning, at work, the desire to call her was strong. To text her, to stay connected. He still felt her – touch, scent, and sensation. And it felt… so good. The ecstasy of connection was […]
Christmas. How will you spend it this year? Will you wake up, greeted by family? Or maybe you’ll be alone? Maybe you don’t even celebrate it. Regardless, it’s a time of year when we often take stock of our relationships. With a spouse or partner, we may become aware of how we are in connection or not. How things have […]
To be in relationship is to step into a boxing ring. We take blows and dish them out. We pivot left and right. In the first few rounds, we perform all kinds of fancy footwork to impress our partner. In the thick of trying to make things work – fulfill a partner’s needs or advocate for our own – a […]
