Every day, we wake up and have the opportunity to tend to our kingdom. How are you tending to yours in these challenging times? Do you show up as the hero of your own story? Or the victim? When it’s the latter, do you even notice? Or do you unconsciously go down the rabbit hole of victim consciousness? Time out! No shame. Instead, […]
There’s one question that disarms couples in a moment of conflict. Prefer to watch me present live? The Conflict John and Susan zoom in to me on video chat from South Carolina. John’s a high level executive with a steel company. And while he spends a lot of time at work, he’s aging and well aware that his home life […]
Today, a story about the greatest suffering – forgetting who we are. Prefer to watch me present live? Check out the YouTube video now. The Client Tim comes into my office. He is torn up inside. He has been married for many years. He’s not shy about sharing how much he loves his wife and children. But… something’s not right. […]
It was classic one finger pointing at my partner, three pointing back at me. It happened like this… Prefer to watch me present live? Check out it out. The Problem Man, I was pissed off. For the second time in a week, she changed plans on me. She got out of her appointment. Then she decided she could not meet me, […]
Mike had it all. Several homes, a boat, a healthy family. What we perceive as success. But in his marriage, that was not the case. He had been with his wife for 17 years. He struggled to talk to her. Nothing was ever enough. He could never get it right. And he took it to heart. “How is it I’m […]
She lies on the bed. Her face glows. She is in her most sensual lace undies and bra. He stands at the foot of the bed, his shirt off. His excitement to enter her is uncontainable. Her desire to receive him is palpable. She reaches out to him with her arms, saying, “Come to me.” All of her is open […]
WARNING: Explicit sexual content. Every guy has felt it. Yes, he has felt it. I have felt it. He is inside of her. He feels ecstasy. He feels euphoria. He feels… complete… eternal… immortal He loves her more than ever. “Ooh baby, you’re so amazing. I love you. I love you. I love you!’ He has gone back to his […]
A man cries. Something opens up in him. He can’t hold in his pain anymore. His heart hurts. His wife has left him. Or he has left her. Either way, he grieves. Men cry. I see this often in my work. Contrary to common belief, they are strong men. Very strong. Strong enough to… Access their sadness. Trust others to […]
Withholds — it’s not a word often spoken between couples. And yet withholds are everywhere in relationship. Maybe you don’t speak a hard truth to your partner. Or maybe you don’t ask for what you need. Or maybe you don’t put the work you want to into your primary relationship (i.e. look at yourself, repair conflict, etc) These are withholds — places where you keep […]
The Ideal Relationship — What’s it look like? Have you ever been in one? When I’ve asked clients, they’ve said things like: We’re deeply connected. We stay open to one another. We never fight. Notice the last statement. Do you know couples who never fight? Anyone come to mind? Likely not. How about we change that last statement to “we navigate […]
