Richard, a sales executive, speaks to me across the screen from New York. He’s exasperated. “She’s always freaking out. I’m tired of it. She’s fucking crazy.” Do you ever think your wife is crazy? Richard did. “I just want things to be OK, fluid. Every little thing becomes a big deal with her. Yesterday she freaked on me because I […]
“My marriage is falling apart,” Robert says. He pauses and sighs. “I fear divorce. I’m at a loss with what to do.” As a super-successful options trader, Robert is unaccustomed to not having the answers. “We’ve been married for years and somewhere, I don’t know exactly when, she shut down on me.” Has your wife shut down on you? Robert’s […]
When a man’s marriage tanks, he asks himself questions like… Can I continue to live like this? How can things change? What can I do about it? And in this place, your options can feel limited. You can easily feel trapped and resigned. Are you living out a life sentence in your marriage? If you’ve ever felt this way, it’s […]
Your blind spot. The place that you can’t see between your rearview and sideview mirror. You check it when you can. But every once in a while, you get lazy. You go to make that lane change, without checking your blind spot… And then BAM! You smash into something. And you realize, it was that damn blind spot. What the […]
Ever been in a fight with your wife and thought, Jeez, we’ve been having the same argument for 15 years? You didn’t do A, B, or C so many years ago, she says, then you didn’t do it again last week. You’re careless and all you think about is yourself and you’ll never change. Do you wonder, how did we […]
“I love my wife. We have a great life. I want to make things work. “But…,” Ryan pauses and considers if he will reveal his secret. I nod my head, giving him the cue that it’s ok to speak. “I’m miserable,” he says, conflicted inside. Do you feel conflicted about the current state of your marriage? A part of Ryan […]
Here’s a crazy phenomenon I see with many married men. Are you this guy? A man walks into his kitchen to get a snack after working in his office. His wife walks into the kitchen. And bam, out of nowhere, she starts coming at him. “Hey,” she says, “you said you’d take care of the appointment for the kids. I never got […]
Dave’s wife left him. Out of the blue. It was sudden. One day he came back from his law office and his wife and kids were gone. The writing had been on the wall. But he was too busy working to see it. As a high powered attorney, my client Dave was not used to being at the mercy of […]
Your wife hates her boss. Or maybe she’s struggling to lose weight. Or she’s upset at your kid’s teacher for how they were treated. She wants you to listen about what’s upsetting her. So you do it. You listen. Maybe you’ve heard that you’re supposed to just listen and not fix her problem. Maybe you’ve even watched the “Nail in […]
Tony, a high-level executive, comes to me trying to get a handle on his marriage. “Nothing I do ever seems like it’s enough for my wife. I’m not home enough, she says. I don’t spend enough time with the kids. I work my ass off and I show up as the best partner possible.” He pauses, sighs. “I’m at a loss. I […]
