Like many men I coach, Austin was struggling in his relationship. He’d lost his mojo, his way, his passion with his wife. After waking up next to her daily for 12 years, he said, “I feel like I’m in a cage. The thrill is gone. Is this really the rest of my life?” “What do you want? What do you […]
At its most challenging in his relationship, a guy finds himself in that “tension in the kitchen” moment with his partner. Have you ever been there? If so, you know how it goes. There’s been a fight the night before. Maybe you hardly remember what it was about. Or you’ve replayed it in your head multiple times, wondering what you […]
Roger feared rocking the boat with his wife. His behaviors showed that. Maybe one of them apply to you as well. It’s easier to just go along with whatever she wants than risk upsetting her. When I speak up for what I want, it just causes problems. And so, I just say nothing. I avoid what I fear with her instead […]
Guy was ambivalent about his commitment to his marriage. He experienced a few things. The unwillingness to act or make a clear choice. The sense of being frozen for years on end. The anxiety of staying with one foot out the door. These are the symptoms of a man who betrays himself. A man who is not in integrity with himself with his […]
I talk a lot about conflict in relationship. It’s where a man needs help most. It’s the biggest problem in his relationship that he wishes he could solve. Do you argue or fight with your partner? If so, you’re not alone. From years of coaching men, I’ve seen that most guys don’t do conflict well. For most men, it’s just […]
Roberto was 12 years married when we began working together. He had all the behaviors of many married men I coach. He was walking on eggshells around his wife. He lived in fear of stepping on a landmine with her. And he tried to avoid what he feared – arguments, upsets, and divorce. “It all started about seven years ago […]
If you’ve been in a long term marriage or relationship, you know how it goes. You say one thing. She misinterprets it. An argument ensues. Women are tough today, many men say. Their expectations and demands on men are super high. And she’s always throwing firecrackers at me. Do you ever fight with your partner? Who doesn’t? But did you know […]
Fear. It’s a bear in relationship. It can weigh a man down. A lot. Fear of not being enough for her. Fear of letting her down. Fear of not making her happy. I’ve seen all kinds of fears from guys during years of coaching men in their relationships. And the biggest thing I teach guys is this… It’s not her that […]
