When men approach the threshold of marital change, be it considering separation, divorce, or reinvention, I immediately acknowledge the immensity of where they are. That place of big change, the cracking open of new life. They often do not see it. How could they? It is not in our cultural language. I emphasize the importance of taking it slowly, one step at […]
“This is a man’s world,” James Brown sang 54 years ago in his iconic 1966 ballad, “It’s A Man’s Man’s Man’s World.” That’s right. The Godfather of Soul. This is a man’s world, this is a man’s world But it wouldn’t be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl. Brown goes on about the inventions man made, from cars […]
There’s one question that disarms couples in a moment of conflict. Prefer to watch me present live? The Conflict John and Susan zoom in to me on video chat from South Carolina. John’s a high level executive with a steel company. And while he spends a lot of time at work, he’s aging and well aware that his home life […]
Today, a story about the greatest suffering – forgetting who we are. Prefer to watch me present live? Check out the YouTube video now. The Client Tim comes into my office. He is torn up inside. He has been married for many years. He’s not shy about sharing how much he loves his wife and children. But… something’s not right. […]
It was classic one finger pointing at my partner, three pointing back at me. It happened like this… Prefer to watch me present live? Check out it out. The Problem Man, I was pissed off. For the second time in a week, she changed plans on me. She got out of her appointment. Then she decided she could not meet me, […]
Mike had it all. Several homes, a boat, a healthy family. What we perceive as success. But in his marriage, that was not the case. He had been with his wife for 17 years. He struggled to talk to her. Nothing was ever enough. He could never get it right. And he took it to heart. “How is it I’m […]
That night, all those years ago, I sat on the dream bed in the dream house, totally confused. I had no idea that I was being called to an initiation. Yet, something mysterious tugged at me, challenging me to move away from my marriage, and be willing to lose everything as I knew it. But I was frozen. Clearly, my […]
She lies on the bed. Her face glows. She is in her most sensual lace undies and bra. He stands at the foot of the bed, his shirt off. His excitement to enter her is uncontainable. Her desire to receive him is palpable. She reaches out to him with her arms, saying, “Come to me.” All of her is open […]
WARNING: Explicit sexual content. Every guy has felt it. Yes, he has felt it. I have felt it. He is inside of her. He feels ecstasy. He feels euphoria. He feels… complete… eternal… immortal He loves her more than ever. “Ooh baby, you’re so amazing. I love you. I love you. I love you!’ He has gone back to his […]
A man cries. Something opens up in him. He can’t hold in his pain anymore. His heart hurts. His wife has left him. Or he has left her. Either way, he grieves. Men cry. I see this often in my work. Contrary to common belief, they are strong men. Very strong. Strong enough to… Access their sadness. Trust others to […]
