Use Fear & Anger To Create A Better Marriage
Emotions. They can hound a man. Take him over. Anger and fear especially.
Ever thought to yourself after an emotional outburst…
Jeez, did I just say that to her?
What just happened?
Man, I’m gonna be in the doghouse for the next week.
Chances are it took you a few minutes or longer to notice how your emotions got the best of you.
How do your emotions impact your marriage?
Fear can keep you small. You might be saying things like…
I hope she doesn’t reject me again.
I’m afraid she’ll blow up on me if I say the wrong thing.
I fear she’ll shut down on me.
How can you make your fear work for you?
Anger is also another tough emotion. No man wants to fall into the “angry guy” trap. You know, the guy who blows up.
Is the angry guy in you saying…
Damn, it pisses me off when she talks to me like I’m a child?
I can’t stand when she closes off sexually?
I get so mad when she gets on me about dumb stuff?
When you are at the mercy of your emotions, you’re at the lowest of your relational powers.
What if you could use anger and fear to be in your greatest relational powers?
Yes, it’s doable. Emotions offer an opportunity that most men miss out on.
Turn your emotions from being masters into advisors.
That’s right, an advisor.
This empowers a man to use his emotions to create a better marriage.
He gets to experience great freedom, as author and psychologist Viktor Frankl said, between his reaction and his response.
“Between stimulus and response lies a space. In that space lie our freedom and power to choose a response.”
Do you respond or react with your partner?
Your response is informed by anger and fear. You are the master.
Your reaction is dictated by your emotions. You are a slave to them.
Master your emotions to create a better marriage in the video below.
Fear is a teacher merely pointing out what you need to be safe from.
And yet fear often grabs the steering wheel of your life.
How can you tell fear to get into the backseat?
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