Once upon a time, a man met a woman. He thought she was attractive. He dated her.

She seemed kind, open, loving. He felt energized in her presence.

He went out with her several times. Then, he noticed life seemed bigger and richer with her versus being on his own.

Soon, he decided to be exclusively intimate with her. He entered a monogamous relationship with her.

Can you remember when you decided to be exclusive with your partner?

The story above may speak to your relationship as it unfolded in its early days.

Maybe you can still recall that time when you dated your partner and then decided to become exclusive to one another.

Maybe you entered into monogamy because it’s what she asked of you. Or it’s what you thought you were supposed to do.

Or maybe because you trusted that the wealth of connection and intimacy of sexuality available to you would be there for you reliably, always.

And then maybe you went the next step towards the bigger contract of marriage.

Maybe you did it to seal the deal on sexual exclusivity or intimate partnership.

Or maybe you did it to win her over so that she could “be yours.”

Can you remember why you went into an exclusive long-term relationship with your partner?

And then it’s possible (and likely if you’re reading this) that over time, you lost each other.

Kids came, work responsibilities elevated, and life got busy.

And then the door to intimacy and sexuality with your partner began to slowly close.

Closed to the point where it felt interminably shut and no longer accessible to you.

Has the door of sexual intimacy with your partner closed on you?

Maybe you can trace it to a pattern of old fights, unhealed past events, or just a busy life where the “us” of your coupledom took a back seat to life, finances, kids, and daily functioning.

And now you find yourself in a situation where the one person to whom you granted sexual exclusivity has shut that door on you.

You feel like you’re in a deep, dark black hole of unmet needs.

And maybe it shows up in your relationship as rejection.

Sexual rejection. Emotional rejection. Rejection of all intimacy.

A dynamic where you feel invisible. As if you no longer matter to the one with whom you were supposed to matter the most.

Maybe you’re in a cycle of rejection. You’ve acclimated to it. Even accepted it as an unchangeable state.

Maybe you fear further rejection. It impacts your self-esteem. It impacts your willingness to speak up and go after what you want.

Does fear of rejection influence how you interact with your partner?

If so, understand that the problem is not the rejection, it’s how you respond to it.

Discover, in the video below, how to use your fear of rejection to work for you to create the kick-ass marriage you seek.

When you’re in the fear of rejection, you’re trapped in the closed door that you’re experiencing with your partner. And it’s hard as hell to open.

To open that door, release focus on your partner, stop blaming her, and go directly to the source of your fear.

Your fear that things will never change. Fear that you’ll remain unseen or unconsidered. Fear that rejection is your fate.

To focus on the fear and not your partner is the start, as Einstein once famously said, to approaching the solution at a different level from which the problem was created.

This is your chance to up-level your one and only precious life.

Your chance to get free from the abyss of doors closing in on you.

Your chance to create the marriage or relationship you seek.

Are you ready to get free of your fear of rejection and resuscitate your relationship?

Shoot me a quick email and let’s talk.