The #1 Thing She Wants From You & How To Give It To Her
William loved his wife. He wanted the best for her. And yet in the day-to-day of life’s busyness, his attention to her wants and needs slipped.
He tried his best. But his efforts to love his wife were often rebuffed.
Gifts, kind gestures, doing his best to listen to her struggles. He couldn’t meet her high standards.
Over time, he even developed a fear of rejection. And eventually, he was at a total loss with her.
Can you relate to trying to love your partner and all you hear is what you didn’t do right?
William’s not alone. In fact, every week, I hear from several men in this situation.
Why is this so common for men?
There’s one reason. Beyond anything you can give her, be it a beautiful piece of jewelry, kind words, or an amazing new kitchen, she won’t receive it with her heart until she gets something else from you. Something she needs and wants deep in her feminine heart.
What does she ultimately want from you?
It’s something you want as well, but you often go about the wrong way of getting it. And as a result, you can’t give it to her.
Simply put, that is… and it may seem super boring but it’s the key to unleashing all the sexy and exciting things with her – the sex, the eros, the novelty.
And that one thing is…. drumroll please… safety.
Does your partner feel safe with you?
Chances are you have no idea. I was like that for years in a 20-year marriage. In fact, I stopped caring altogether if she was safe with me or not. Her safety felt like a burden to me. That’s a major problem
If she doesn’t feel safe with you, she won’t receive all the other things that you give her, even things she says she wants from you.
And that can leave a guy scratching his head, thinking WTF?
When I first started working with William, it was clear to me that he was not safe in himself. And so, it made sense that he didn’t feel safe with his wife. And by safe, I mean trusted or respected.
As a result, whenever he tried to do something for her, he got the feedback that it wasn’t enough. Be it a turning away of her head, a shrug of the shoulder, or a rolling of her eyes.
“Why doesn’t she tell me? You know, that she doesn’t feel safe with me?” William asked me.
“Well you see, women have this crappy rule. And it goes like this, if I have to ask you for it, then it doesn’t count,” I said.
Yeah, I know, that feels unfair. But it’s how most women are.
So how do you help your partner feel safe with you?
In the 4-minute video below, find out.
You can learn all relationship tools in the world, but ultimately it’s about implementing them effectively.
Action, not information, gets you what you want with your partner.
Learn how to give your partner what she wants and become your most confident and courageous self with her.
Let’s have a quick chat. A chat is a guaranteed, powerful conversation to give you meaningful insights on how to create the marriage you want.
And to be clear, talking with me is just an honest, real conversation.
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