Dave’s wife left him. Out of the blue. It was sudden.

One day he came back from his law office and his wife and kids were gone.

The writing had been on the wall. But he was too busy working to see it.

As a high powered attorney, my client Dave was not used to being at the mercy of anyone. In fact, he prided himself on being in charge of his life.

What if one day your wife just upped and left you?

Is there writing on the wall right now that you’re ignoring?

When you’re married, it’s easy to take your partner for granted. It’s easy to kick the can down the road on your relationship problems.

That was Dave.

Do you need a 2×4 to the head to take charge of your relationship?

Dave was too arrogant to even consider this. It came out in what he said.

“I provide everything she needs. She’s got nothing to complain about.”

Dude, you may or may not know it. But providing alone is not enough for your wife. She needs something else.

Do you know what she really needs?

She needs a bonafide partner. A strong, resilient, emotionally available husband.

Not a jerk who just wants his wife’s problems to go away. And not a new age wimp who lets his wife dominate him.

If you’re either guy, no shame. I used to be be the wimp. Either way, I’m here to help you change that.

And to tell help you not become a statistic. One that reveals 90% of us guys are getting hit by 2 x 4’s to the head by women initiating divorce.

Yes, in college-educated couples women are asking for divorce 90% of the time. Staggering.

Dave nearly became a casualty of that statistic.

Are you a statistic waiting to happen?  

Dave’s 2 x 4 to the head came when his wife left him. But after feeling despondent, depressed, and crushed, he decided to pick himself up by the bootstraps and get some help.

In the video below, I talk about how Dave’s wife leaving him turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to him and what he did to win her back.

And below, I speak to a super power known as freedom from outcome, that Dave cultivated to regain his marriage.

After his wake up call, Dave flipped from taking his wife for granted to literally begging her to come back to him. He went from arrogant to desperate.

This dramatic flip of persona did not win him points with his wife. In fact, it made her highly suspicious and even less trusting of him.

In working with Dave as his coach, I taught him something I teach many men. It’s simple and it’s the key to a man’s freedom and self-respect in his. relationship.

It is your ability to show up in your marriage, free of attachment to any outcome.

Do you want to experience more freedom in your marriage?

It sounds crazy but it works.

In Dave’s case, that meant taking responsibility for how he had been emotionally checked out and not focusing on whether his wife would take him back or not.

Once he pivoted back to himself, he lost the desperation of winning his wife back.

He put himself in a position to be the man he wanted to be, which was a man who was worthy of the trust and respect of himself AND his wife.

And not to bullshit you, this was like learning a foreign language for Dave. Presence with himself was Greek to a man who spent all his time avoiding his wife working.

Do you avoid your wife?

The game changer for Dave was dealing with himself before he tried to deal with his wife. He couldn’t love and appreciate her until he had that for himself.

And this empowered him to get free from being attached to an outcome. He came to peace with the reality that he could only change himself, not his wife.

Are you wanting to reignite your marriage before a 2 x 4 hits you in the head?

If so, join me and a group of strong and resilient men in my next Men’s Relationship Tools zoom call on Tuesdays at 9am MST.

And if you can’t make it Tuesday, up your relationship game in my private men’s-only Facebook Group Men Mastering Relationship.